Selling my wife...

JPH · 02-22-2009, 11:22 AM

...on making mods. I know at least a handful of you have gone through this. It starts with you approaching your wife, girlfriend or whoever with a basic story well organized in your head. The story might start with some basic figures, stats. and facts that seem sensible: "...well, I can shave a few pounds of un-sprung weight, gain a handful of HP, increase down-force enhance the look of the car and maybe even cure cancer ...all for just $X,XXX (fill in your own ridiculous figure)".

The story sounds great...to you. It's neatly packaged, contains facts/figures and has an emotional appeal, it all makes sense. At least it makes sense until you slip in the price tag, that's where things go sideways. Even in your uber-confident mood the price feels a little crazy, when you listen to your own words. So my questions is:
-How do you sell the unsensible? Who has had success here and what did it take?
-Lastly, for s#*ts and giggles, who has had a massive failure here (much to be learned from failure…and much to laugh at)

Crazy Bimmer · 02-22-2009, 11:24 AM

Im not married but with the ex girlfriend i just reminded her that it was just a pricey "hobby" like her purses....

JPH · 02-22-2009, 11:26 AM

That or shoes are the female equivalent...good point.

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Originally Posted by Crazy Bimmer

Im not married but with the ex girlfriend i just reminded her that it was just a pricey "hobby" like her purses....

drsnooz · 02-22-2009, 11:33 AM

Seems like you don't wear the pants in the relationship.

If you're working and you can AFFORD the mods than why wouldn't you be able to go ahead and treat yourself to something that you deserve for all your hard work. My wife understands this and doesn't question me when I want to mod my car.

leemik · 02-22-2009, 11:37 AM

It's called the Chick Tax.. buy her a nice Prada bag and when you give it to her tell her you sorta bought an new exhaust for the car too.. She'll be so happy with the new bag that she can't complain about the exhaust.. Unfortunately your exhaust got a little bit more expensive but that's price you pay when you mod under a relationship

808MGuy · 02-22-2009, 11:49 AM

Never had that problem. She knew I always did a lot of research on any purchase so I never bought anything on impulse. I myself, have decided I'm done with modding though. I got it all out of my system on my last car. I bought the M with the intention of buying a car that was so good off the lot that I had no urge to mod. So far, I haven't got the urges.

alpine335i · 02-22-2009, 11:59 AM

I have to order my parts secretly and then tell my fiance when it arrives here.

KANdaddy · 02-22-2009, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by drsnooz

Seems like you don't wear the pants in the relationship.

If you're working and you can AFFORD the mods than why wouldn't you be able to go ahead and treat yourself to something that you deserve for all your hard work. My wife understands this and doesn't question me when I want to mod my car.

Have to agree 100% here. If you work hard and can afford it the only explaining you should do is "I wanted a new exhaust b/c it sounds cool." when was the last time she called you before buying a boat load of shoes?? Just get what you want. You'll get better results asking for forgiveness than for permission.

richardg · 02-22-2009, 12:47 PM

Its not our business how your money is spent or how you two react in your relationship. Nor am I in much place to tell you how to do things, since Im assuming you are much older than I am. (Im 21) but if you can afford it and it will do little to nothing to you financially then do as you please. She should want you to enjoy yourself and your toy, and vice versa. Though it is only natural that if you buy an extremely large ticket item that she or you inquires. Like a 2k purse or some 10k wheels. But what is a large ticket item is proportional to your financial situation. So just use your best judgment, the worse that can happen is that she says no. But really its your cash so have at it.

Ramphaus · 02-22-2009, 12:54 PM

This past Xmas I bought my wife a pricey necklace without her even hinting that she wanted it. She was bummed that she hadn't gotten me anything nearly as nice and said "babe you should go out and get something else for yourself..." I replied with "I was thinking about getting some track wheels/tires." She said, "Oh good!"

And they think THEY'RE playing mind games!

addy85 · 02-22-2009, 01:02 PM

Here's what I do

Me: Hey I'm getting some new wheels! You want to see them?
Girlfriend: How much do they cost?
Me: 4,000 with wheels, TMPS, Tires, SHIPPED!!!
Girlfriend: OMG 4 grand??? Are you crazy!!
Me: Shut up BITCH and make me something to eat before I remind you who's daddy!
Girlfriend: "gets up and starts cooking"

P.S. Baby if you read this I'm only trying to impress my fellow peers on bimmerpost

I still want those wheels though so can I buy them please.............

Adonislike · 02-22-2009, 01:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by addy85

Here's what I do

Me: Hey I'm getting some new wheels! You want to see them?
Girlfriend: How much do they cost?
Me: 4,000 with wheels, TMPS, Tires, SHIPPED!!!
Girlfriend: OMG 4 grand??? Are you crazy!!
Me: Shut up BITCH and make me something to eat before I remind you who's daddy!
Girlfriend: "gets up and starts cooking"

P.S. Baby if you read this I'm only trying to impress my fellow peers on bimmerpost

I still want those wheels though so can I buy them please.............

LOL!!! OMG!!

JPH · 02-22-2009, 02:02 PM

Chick Tax + ///M Tax = Brutal

Quote:

Originally Posted by leemik

It's called the Chick Tax.. buy her a nice Prada bag and when you give it to her tell her you sorta bought an new exhaust for the car too.. She'll be so happy with the new bag that she can't complain about the exhaust.. Unfortunately your exhaust got a little bit more expensive but that's price you pay when you mod under a relationship

JPH · 02-22-2009, 02:04 PM

You're a better man than me...the minute I bought it I was thinking about a new exhaust. It's been a year, probably about time....then I'm done

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Originally Posted by HIS4

Never had that problem. She knew I always did a lot of research on any purchase so I never bought anything on impulse. I myself, have decided I'm done with modding though. I got it all out of my system on my last car. I bought the M with the intention of buying a car that was so good off the lot that I had no urge to mod. So far, I haven't got the urges.

JPH · 02-22-2009, 02:06 PM

Two points:

1) She never buys anything that expensive so I can't "reverse sell it" to her. That's both good news and bad news.

2) You have a point, and it's not like I'm buying hookers...gave that up a while back.

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Originally Posted by KANdaddy

Have to agree 100% here. If you work hard and can afford it the only explaining you should do is "I wanted a new exhaust b/c it sounds cool." when was the last time she called you before buying a boat load of shoes?? Just get what you want. You'll get better results asking for forgiveness than for permission.

JPH · 02-22-2009, 02:08 PM

well played!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ramphaus

This past Xmas I bought my wife a pricey necklace without her even hinting that she wanted it. She was bummed that she hadn't gotten me anything nearly as nice and said "babe you should go out and get something else for yourself..." I replied with "I was thinking about getting some track wheels/tires." She said, "Oh good!"

And they think THEY'RE playing mind games!

JPH · 02-22-2009, 02:09 PM

This is "plan B"

Quote:

Originally Posted by addy85

Here's what I do

Me: Hey I'm getting some new wheels! You want to see them?
Girlfriend: How much do they cost?
Me: 4,000 with wheels, TMPS, Tires, SHIPPED!!!
Girlfriend: OMG 4 grand??? Are you crazy!!
Me: Shut up BITCH and make me something to eat before I remind you who's daddy!
Girlfriend: "gets up and starts cooking"

P.S. Baby if you read this I'm only trying to impress my fellow peers on bimmerpost

I still want those wheels though so can I buy them please.............

KANdaddy · 02-22-2009, 02:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JPH

You have a point, and it's not like I'm buying hookers...gave that up a while back.

true.

quackbury · 02-22-2009, 09:18 PM

Selling your wife? Interesting...

Can you post pics? Can I take her for a test drive first?

FStop7 · 02-22-2009, 09:19 PM

Pics of wife? Mileage? Willing to part her out?

JAJ · 02-23-2009, 12:04 AM

I'm not sure FStop7 wants to buy her - I think it's more a "rental" that he has in mind...

valeram · 02-23-2009, 09:43 AM

First thing first, make sure she don't see this 'wife for sale..' post.
Secondly, tell her that your mod will help the environment (if she is a liberal) or tell her that it will help the economy (if she is a conservative).
Third (if she still won't agree with you), tell her that it is cheaper and safer than having some bad vice like extra marital relationship or tobacco sex. That you deserved to be rewarded.

02-22-2009, 11:22 AM	#1
JPH Second Lieutenant 20 Rep 254 Posts Drives: E92 M3 Coupe Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Chicago iTrader: (0)	Selling my wife... ...on making mods. I know at least a handful of you have gone through this. It starts with you approaching your wife, girlfriend or whoever with a basic story well organized in your head. The story might start with some basic figures, stats. and facts that seem sensible: "...well, I can shave a few pounds of un-sprung weight, gain a handful of HP, increase down-force enhance the look of the car and maybe even cure cancer ...all for just $X,XXX (fill in your own ridiculous figure)". The story sounds great...to you. It's neatly packaged, contains facts/figures and has an emotional appeal, it all makes sense. At least it makes sense until you slip in the price tag, that's where things go sideways. Even in your uber-confident mood the price feels a little crazy, when you listen to your own words. So my questions is: -How do you sell the unsensible? Who has had success here and what did it take? -Lastly, for s#*ts and giggles, who has had a massive failure here (much to be learned from failure…and much to laugh at)
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drsnooz Professor 19 Rep 437 Posts Drives: 08 E60 M5 Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Viva Las Vegas!!! iTrader: (3)	Seems like you don't wear the pants in the relationship. If you're working and you can AFFORD the mods than why wouldn't you be able to go ahead and treat yourself to something that you deserve for all your hard work. My wife understands this and doesn't question me when I want to mod my car.
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leemik Lieutenant Colonel 509 Rep 1,570 Posts Drives: 2013 LRP M3 Coupe Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Quincy, MA iTrader: (4) Garage List 2020 Acura NSX [0.00] 2013 BMW M3 [9.50]	It's called the Chick Tax.. buy her a nice Prada bag and when you give it to her tell her you sorta bought an new exhaust for the car too.. She'll be so happy with the new bag that she can't complain about the exhaust.. Unfortunately your exhaust got a little bit more expensive but that's price you pay when you mod under a relationship
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808MGuy Colonel 221 Rep 2,339 Posts Drives: 2009 E90 M3 Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Oahu, Hawaii iTrader: (3)	Never had that problem. She knew I always did a lot of research on any purchase so I never bought anything on impulse. I myself, have decided I'm done with modding though. I got it all out of my system on my last car. I bought the M with the intention of buying a car that was so good off the lot that I had no urge to mod. So far, I haven't got the urges. __________________ 2016 Porsche Cayman GTS - Sapphire Blue / Black Full Leather Interior / Carrera S Wheels
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alpine335i Captain 44 Rep 687 Posts Drives: 08 e92 M3 6MT, 08 e90 328xi Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Poughkeepsie, NY iTrader: (2)	I have to order my parts secretly and then tell my fiance when it arrives here. __________________ 2008 Alpine White E92 ///M3
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richardg Major 225 Rep 1,425 Posts Drives: MacanGTS, 991.2GT3, E63wagon Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Bellevue WA / Oakville ON iTrader: (5)	Its not our business how your money is spent or how you two react in your relationship. Nor am I in much place to tell you how to do things, since Im assuming you are much older than I am. (Im 21) but if you can afford it and it will do little to nothing to you financially then do as you please. She should want you to enjoy yourself and your toy, and vice versa. Though it is only natural that if you buy an extremely large ticket item that she or you inquires. Like a 2k purse or some 10k wheels. But what is a large ticket item is proportional to your financial situation. So just use your best judgment, the worse that can happen is that she says no. But really its your cash so have at it.
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Ramphaus Private First Class 17 Rep 167 Posts Drives: E92 Melbourne Red/Beige Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: North Carolina iTrader: (0)	This past Xmas I bought my wife a pricey necklace without her even hinting that she wanted it. She was bummed that she hadn't gotten me anything nearly as nice and said "babe you should go out and get something else for yourself..." I replied with "I was thinking about getting some track wheels/tires." She said, "Oh good!" And they think THEY'RE playing mind games!
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addy85 Got beef? 138 Rep 3,646 Posts Drives: E90 335i Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Arlington Texas iTrader: (4) Garage List 2007 335i [0.00]	Here's what I do Me: Hey I'm getting some new wheels! You want to see them? Girlfriend: How much do they cost? Me: 4,000 with wheels, TMPS, Tires, SHIPPED!!! Girlfriend: OMG 4 grand??? Are you crazy!! Me: Shut up BITCH and make me something to eat before I remind you who's daddy! Girlfriend: "gets up and starts cooking" P.S. Baby if you read this I'm only trying to impress my fellow peers on bimmerpost I still want those wheels though so can I buy them please............. __________________ Special Thanks to AU335
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FStop7 I like cars 329 Rep 5,052 Posts Drives: M6 Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Newbury Park, CA iTrader: (3)	Pics of wife? Mileage? Willing to part her out? __________________ My photostream: http://www.flickr.com/photos/racelap/
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JAJ Captain 80 Rep 961 Posts Drives: 2014 Shelby GT500 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Vancouver, BC iTrader: (4)	I'm not sure FStop7 wants to buy her - I think it's more a "rental" that he has in mind...
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valeram Major 37 Rep 1,413 Posts Drives: 992 TTS, 991.2 GT3 T, F80 M3 C Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Dublin, OH iTrader: (0)	First thing first, make sure she don't see this 'wife for sale..' post. Secondly, tell her that your mod will help the environment (if she is a liberal) or tell her that it will help the economy (if she is a conservative). Third (if she still won't agree with you), tell her that it is cheaper and safer than having some bad vice like extra marital relationship or tobacco sex. That you deserved to be rewarded.
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