what would you do? (yet another relationship advice thread in OT)

[ideliver]

it's her problem...let her deal with it however she chooses...this affects you zero

[immiketoo]

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

It could be that she fucked him. It could be that hes just strange and obsessed. I've dealt with similar situations. First off, at the end of the day, you're fucking and dating her and hes just some dude trying to creep in and failing. What I would suggest is getting her some mace or some shit. Hes just leaving little things and shit. You cant do anything legally until there is an actual threat to her safety. Until he proves to be a fucken psycho I dont think theres anything you need to do.

Not true. There are plenty of laws that apply here, and the first step is documented proof that she told him to stop. I.e., call the police and have a report taken. Stalking laws have seriously tightened up in the last few years and the report is the first step. If they "dataed" then domestic laws might apply and enhance the consequences of breaking the law. Either way, you "Laying down the rules" is a collosal waste of time.

[MadDog]

Originally Posted by immiketoo

Not true. There are plenty of laws that apply here, and the first step is documented proof that she told him to stop. I.e., call the police and have a report taken. Stalking laws have seriously tightened up in the last few years and the report is the first step. If they "dataed" then domestic laws might apply and enhance the consequences of breaking the law. Either way, you "Laying down the rules" is a collosal waste of time.

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[CollinsE90]

Emmett, your post doesnt seem to be working. I cant see any pics.

[newdadkel]

Yea with this type of douche, any physical confrontation will just make it worse. Restraining order is a good approach.
Also, the next time he leaves shit on her car, have her take it to his work and tell him off in front of everyone he works with. That should embarrass the hell out of him and reinforce her point that it is over. And post vid

[.:bHd:.]

lmao at the convo. But my advice is to not respond to the guy. Some guys never give up until they get it. The girl just gets annoyed and fucks him. I've seen it happen a few too many times.

Edit: I think she boned him too or he wold never be so sprung on her. Might have been his first too.

[Tondtar]

Originally Posted by immiketoo

Not true. There are plenty of laws that apply here, and the first step is documented proof that she told him to stop. I.e., call the police and have a report taken. Stalking laws have seriously tightened up in the last few years and the report is the first step. If they "dataed" then domestic laws might apply and enhance the consequences of breaking the law. Either way, you "Laying down the rules" is a collosal waste of time.

Originally Posted by MadDog

this

You should know that quite well, Corn Dog

[ES_TRADER]

i have experienced this before....exact situation...she IS STILL fucking him probably when ur at work making money to spend on her. Its not him, its ur girl that's to blame for all this

[06E90Rostik]

Originally Posted by Quick6EF

she fucked him

Originally Posted by NYCGarbagePrince

He loved it.

He wants more, she doesn't

[MadDog]

Originally Posted by Tondtar

You should know that quite well, Corn Dog

RatBoy talking shit again.

[11ker]

I would of slapped him up in 2008 set him straight from the beginning...clearly he has no respect for you and thinks of you as a pussy..just on that basis I would of knocked him out let alone hitting on my girl...

[Kroy]

Originally Posted by immiketoo

Not true. There are plenty of laws that apply here, and the first step is documented proof that she told him to stop. I.e., call the police and have a report taken. Stalking laws have seriously tightened up in the last few years and the report is the first step. If they "dataed" then domestic laws might apply and enhance the consequences of breaking the law. Either way, you "Laying down the rules" is a collosal waste of time.

listen to the cop

Originally Posted by CollinsE90

Emmett, your post doesnt seem to be working. I cant see any pics.

experiencing same problem

[infinitekidM2C]

First ur avatar is awesome: This guy seems like a great guy..









For me to poop on.


Seriously, as he clearly has no respect for you he needs to learn you are not to be f'd with. I'm not violent but i'd show up at his house the next time he contacted her in any form...and talk to the guy in person..if he tries to fight you...well fight..if not then just explain you are going to appear at his house everytime he contacts her.

[Joonsup]

Originally Posted by Quick6EF

lol I don't think that would bring out a reaction from her.

She's a GIRL, probably loves this (unwanted) attention.



EDIT:

Convo btwn her and girls:


A: "OMG so you know that guy I used to hook up with when Emmett and I were on a break?"

B: "Yes! You said the sex was the best ever!! LOL!"

A: "Well he won't leave me alone! ...but he did send me such a nice Christmas card though <333 Emmett is so jealous now. He's like
always pacing around stomping his feat when I mention a text from him. I swear he started to cry last night too."

B: "Didn't you say you want to break up with Emmett anyway?"

A: "Yea I think I def do, but with Valentines day coming up I'll just wait."

this was hilarious

[texasmojo]

I would check phone bills a couple months back for calls and texts, See her paystub to make sure she was at work. She could be in it and then changed her mind.

If you dont plan to marry her then just let it go and stay out of trouble with the law. If you are for real with her then take the restraining order approach.

[molossus]

Originally Posted by 11ker

I would of slapped him up in 2008 set him straight from the beginning...clearly he has no respect for you and thinks of you as a pussy..just on that basis I would of knocked him out let alone hitting on my girl...

But seriously, what if he kicked your ass and then took a dump on your chest?

[EmmettBrown]

thanks for all the replies guys. i dont have time right now to address every reply but things are taken care of now for the most part

[CollinsE90]

Post still isnt working, Ive hit F5 at least 5 times

[11ker]

Originally Posted by molossus

But seriously, what if he kicked your ass and then took a dump on your chest?

Then plan B..call the cops lol..

But not many guys would be able to stand up to a cruiser weight boxer...

[EmmettBrown]

Originally Posted by 11ker

I would of slapped him up in 2008 set him straight from the beginning...clearly he has no respect for you and thinks of you as a pussy..just on that basis I would of knocked him out let alone hitting on my girl...

out of all the replies... this is exactly how i feel. i dont think its best (and the other posts here make more sense) but its just how i feel about it. i've gotten my ass kicked, and i've won some. i never go down without a fight - win or lose. just as long as i did it and stood up for myself; even though thats not the most reasonable mindset.

[Gavin@MMW]

Originally Posted by EmmettBrown

alright im probably going to get 1 or 2 serious replies (if im lucky) out of the 10 posts that i get back but here it goes....



ill make this a short story: i've been with my girlfriend for 5 years now and back in '08 we took a two-three month break. it was supposed to be a break-up but we still hung out, talked on the phone, etc etc so that's why we considered it a break after all.

we both went out did our own thing but we both never did anything with anyone else. you all can deny her part on this one but i really do not care. i met a few girls, she met a few guys.

anyways after we got back, this one guy she met is like fucking obsessed with her and she already has told him multiple times that we've gotten back and that she's not interested in him. in 2009, he would still text her and or message on facebook. she would just ignore it and kept saying she is not interested and to leave her alone. 2010 shit isnt too bad anymore but he still leaves a card in her mailbox on her birthday and what not, and now she just told me that this past christmas he left a card or some shit on her car at work and how pissed off she is.

she told him he cant be doing this shit and he once again, apologized and said he wont ever talk to her again (which she told him not to talk to her ever again months ago).


i'm really getting fuckin sick and tired of this goddamn douchebag. i have his fucking address, workplace, cellphone number - anything, you name it.



now what should i do about this? me being in socal, and being the fucking age i am, theres no way i can have a serious talk with this guy and he'll just want to "fight" right away or some shit. i can already bet on it.

i would want to too of course but i gotta try and keep it serious.


should i take this on my own hands and "do something about it"? or have some people "pay him a visit"? this douchebag seriously is one of those fucks who doesn't stop bothering till something hits them (literally)

Beat the guys ass.

/thread.

[OC Guy]

Originally Posted by choicez

Have an affair with skinnycow.

Always have liked your responses.

In all seriousness, have an affair with skinnycow.

jk.

Like one poster said, tell him he can't be doing this shit anymore. Don't threaten him unless you know you can kick his ass though.