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Yes, it's not just about getting laid, just putting it out there as a 'step' to get over.
What is more important is everything behind.
"Vulnerability and Showing Desire
The true power of vulnerability is that it resolves the investment paradox. The investment paradox, as mentioned in the previous chapters, is the apparent conflict between the two aspects of female attraction. Women are attracted to men who are of higher status than themselves (or in our terms, less needy). They are also aroused by men who desire them. The paradox is that typically, if a man shows desire towards a woman, then he’s also showing some degree of neediness or that he’s lower status than she is, thus making himself unattractive.
The common term for this is “putting her on a pedestal."
Vulnerability short-circuits the paradox. A man comfortable being vulnerable will not behave in a needy way. And when desire is shown without neediness, it is attractive. When desire is shown with neediness, it is unattractive."
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