[Sophisticated Redneck]

Not saying this to be cruel, but you need to run not walk to a doc and get your testosterone/estrogen checked. I guarantee you are on the low end of the spectrum. Again not an insult, just reality. Once these are optimized, take up the advice many others have already posted on physical fitness but also take up boxing/marital arts classes.

The way you carry yourself will subconsciously change. You may not even notice it at first but women will. Your dating pool will increase exponentially, and you won't waste your time on girls like you are currently chasing.

Bottom line, like anything in life, you have to put in the hard work needed to obtain the results you desire.