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      11-23-2007, 12:24 PM   #1
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Urgent (going out in 1 hour):"Dating" and paying? :)

So i've got two good friends (couple) and last week i went out with them and a friend of theirs. It seems like the girl is interested and sure as hell I am. So we are going out again the fuor of us to a restaurant and i was wondering whether it would be good or bad if i offer to pay for the girl's dinner. Am leaning towards not-pay because its not exactly a date. Womens opinions really appreciated
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      11-23-2007, 12:40 PM   #2
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I say just pay for it and act like it's no big deal...
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      11-23-2007, 12:52 PM   #3
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Don't pay unless it's just you and her. Wait till you start dating...you will have plenty of opportunities to pay then.

If you pay now, she will think that you are just acting like a big shot...no need.

play it cool bro...and good luck.
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      11-23-2007, 01:01 PM   #4
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dont pay, unless you really want to
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      11-23-2007, 05:56 PM   #5
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if it goes well pay otherwise no...
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      11-23-2007, 06:18 PM   #6
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I can never let a lady pay that i don't know yet... Lets say you two do go out again after time shes gunna hate that you always pay and once in a BLUE MOON you can let her pay but other then that just pay and see where it goes dont worry you will feel better in the morning knowing you didnt let this poor girl pay for her food.
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      11-23-2007, 07:01 PM   #7
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You mean pay for your meal and hers??? Kinda weird don't you think if you guys are not a couple and going out with a group of 4.

Either you pay your own meal only, or you pick up the ENTIRE tab for the whole table. You only pay for 2 of you when you are officially a couple.
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      11-23-2007, 07:18 PM   #8
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Just pay for her. Her $20-30 meal won't break the bank and she'll appreciate the gesture. Think of it as a good $20-30 investment if things go well, which you make them seem that way...
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      11-23-2007, 07:25 PM   #9
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its not a date, dont pay - unless she was a friend.
 
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      11-23-2007, 07:28 PM   #10
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i always pay for girls, even if they are just friends... just my thing i guess.
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      11-23-2007, 07:32 PM   #11
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its not a date, dont pay - unless she was a friend.
Thats called being a cheap ass. No one can tell me a meal isn't going to hurt. Not like he's buying the chick a car. He's just treating her to dinner and hopefully showing her a great "tube steak" later in the evening
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      11-23-2007, 07:46 PM   #12
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i always pay for girls, even if they are just friends... just my thing i guess.
thats me too
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      11-23-2007, 09:58 PM   #13
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don't pay!

your pulling power will only decrease one you pay for her meal, or anything, you don't even know her yet...

i never pay for my 1st or 2nd dates....no way!

it's 2007!!
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i would either pay for everyone, or just myself. paying just for you and her is too cheesy and will probably look like a cheap thing to do
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      11-23-2007, 10:08 PM   #15
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who paid last time?
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      11-23-2007, 10:33 PM   #16
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Thats called being a cheap ass. No one can tell me a meal isn't going to hurt. Not like he's buying the chick a car. He's just treating her to dinner and hopefully showing her a great "tube steak" later in the evening
thats true. i guess its all up to a girl then (obviously if shes a bitch, fuck that, dont pay! haha)
 
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      11-24-2007, 01:38 AM   #17
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dont pay. gotta play hard to get. act like your shit dont stink to get into the pink. be nice and respectful, but dont show intrest. show what she is missing if she dosnt get involved with you. the best think would be is pull out a bunch of cash and pay for it all and have them pay u back. it looks alot better. say u dont have your card on u.
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      11-24-2007, 01:51 AM   #18
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i would never pay on dates anymore unless she offered to split the bills.....its not worth it unless teh sex is 110% guaranteed if you pay for dinner
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      11-24-2007, 08:30 AM   #19
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Thanks for the advice guys

The whole thing flew really smooth. I had a great time and she did too.
It helped a lot having my two good friends there. No awkwardness whatsoever.

I finally decided not to pay (as it was my original thought) since it would seem a bit weird maybe if i did given that i only saw her once before.

I send her a message today saying i had a good time and told her that if she felt the same way we could organize something similar again. She said that this would be great!

All in all i feel quite happy

Stand by for next "date" or date question
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      11-24-2007, 11:04 AM   #20
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You're asking BMW owners? We are self-centered, egotistical pricks.
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      11-24-2007, 11:10 AM   #21
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as a true gentleman like myself.....i would have paid......

but i won't open the door for her.........
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      11-24-2007, 11:40 AM   #22
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i would never pay on dates anymore unless she offered to split the bills.....its not worth it unless teh sex is 110% guaranteed if you pay for dinner
That's cuz you're 0% guatanteed not to get laid. You're short and ugly
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