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      11-17-2005, 04:54 AM   #67
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i think ur personal preferrence has a lot to do with what kind of environment u grew up in. if u grew up in a mix environment, obviously ur very open to other cultures, but if the girl is raised in a traditionally environment she would have little choice but to conform to how she was raised. i think this correlation is very strong, not a perfect 1 but close to the line. nature/nurture from the time u was born has a lot of weight on ur viewpoint. now things can change by outside forces when growing up but initial impact on ur life has been made for u in most cases.
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      11-17-2005, 11:15 AM   #68
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i think ur personal preferrence has a lot to do with what kind of environment u grew up in. if u grew up in a mix environment, obviously ur very open to other cultures, but if the girl is raised in a traditionally environment she would have little choice but to conform to how she was raised. i think this correlation is very strong, not a perfect 1 but close to the line. nature/nurture from the time u was born has a lot of weight on ur viewpoint. now things can change by outside forces when growing up but initial impact on ur life has been made for u in most cases.
This is exactly what I was saying in my post before this one I'm making now.
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      11-17-2005, 01:54 PM   #69
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This is exactly what I was saying in my post before this one I'm making now.
i don't understand the part when ur upset about her not liking ur race. she maybe shallow, close minded or whatever u want to call her but u have to respect her right. her views may not be ethical or right but she has a right to choose even if it is based on race or other factors that u may define as horrible, racist or prejudice. remember, what is ethical may not always be right, don't get the 2 confused. i wouldn't call her in this situation a racist bc racism is define as performing an act on a prejudicial idea that effects u. while she acted on her presumed prejudicial ideas and it had an effect on u, she was well within her rights to do that. the key here in my opinion is as long as her rights does not violate ur right, i wouldn't hold this against her. do u get my argument here? i am no lawyer by any means, i've only taken blaw courses and that's about it. it's only my opinion and theory on life, it should not be applied to the universe. move on dude, life is not fair! get over the fact there is no perfect world, now or ever and there shouldn't be if i had a choice bc then no one would want to clean the toilet or pick up garbage for a living and we'd all be in one class!!! picture that, very scary in my thoughts
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      11-21-2005, 04:55 AM   #70
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Guys (not jerks) with lots of Green will be attracted to girls in general. No offense tho, but that's the damn truth and will ever be.
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      11-26-2006, 12:01 AM   #71
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I've haven't been rejected, per say, however I have kknown guys who tell me they prefer blondes, or asians, or latinos, girls that are very tan, etc. I've always been their exception.
And I wonder why you've been the exception...
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      11-26-2006, 12:09 AM   #72
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I think it just comes down to this... how hot are you? No matter what color you are if you are hot enough, that is enough to overcome peoples preferences.
But there are some people so caught up in what other people think like their family and crap, that they do things a certain way to be accepted by them. That can be cultural too. Like my family is Mexican, and my pops would never let my sister date a black guy, but on the other hand he wouldn't care if my brother or I date a black chick. I'm sure it goes that way for myself too, I'm sure some chicks dad is out there saying, you better not bring home no Mexican foo!
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      11-26-2006, 01:01 AM   #73
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I feel ya on the ethnicity thing. I have been in similar style situations (more on religion - even though Im not religious just what religion I was born into). I personally would date someone from any ethnicity IF i was physically attracted and mentally to them. Everyone has their preference etc. I have dated girls I wasnt attracted to physically and it got old fast. Anyways don't sweat it dude there will be many more chances. Or hell you could move down here to Houston... there is a LOT of inter-racial/ethnicity dating going on. Ive actually had a girl of my own ethnicity turn me DOWN because she only dated a different one (kinda like your situation but opposite in a way).

But hey it could be worse dude... I seem to get rejected a lot period lol. I guess my short avg looking ass needs to stop trying to hit on the models and millionare girls lol. Or maybe I need to get some "game" lol.
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      11-26-2006, 01:44 AM   #74
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so just because you think you're SOOO good looking every girl supose to say yes to you ? everyone has their own preferences, sometimes that preference is race which does not make a girl ignorant.... but one thing I know for sure, that all girls are insanely weird, and they follow no logic at all

btw, i was rejected once... i went to the bank to deposit a cheque, and I see this smoking hot girl as a teller (which is a MAJOR turn on for me, always wanted a gf who worked in the bank lol ), she sees me, we make eye contact (and usually girls turn away fast, but this one kept looking for a good 5-10 seconds)...so im thinking i'm golden... I pretended like I had a phone call or whatever so other people will go to the ugly tellers and i make it to hot one ... so i go there, tell her i wanna deposit a cheque, and she starts flirting big time, we keep talking for like 5 minutes, and I feel crazy vibe there, anyways at the end I write down on a peaice of paper "what's your phone #?" and give it to her, she reads it and then shows me her hand with engagement ring on it (from now on I will always look at the finger first before making a fool out of myself lol)... so ya, I got shut down
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      11-26-2006, 07:25 PM   #75
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Just my .02. I am a white American married guy that has dated white and asian girls.

I have a very good friend that is Indian. He can not marry and Indian girl because he is to Americanized. He can not marry a non-indian girl because it would disapoint his family... He is essentially in a no marry situation.

It is my opinion that people that will not marry/date a person of a different race than themselves is NOT racist. Its just a cultural issue that people have to accept.

I think you are fortunate to find that you are not compatible with this person so quickly. The up-side is that it did not cost you money, time, or a relationship. I do not think you should hold this against them though. Dating leads to marraige, familys, etc. This is the ONE area that I think people should accept that people prefer their own race when it comes to marraige. I do not think its wrong. It does not mean your heart does not get broken either.
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      11-26-2006, 08:02 PM   #76
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my man boobs tend to be the reason for the rejection. being fat is worse than being a minority when it comes to hunting chicks.
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      11-26-2006, 08:21 PM   #77
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no.. all women want me... young ones and old ones... purple ones and grey ones..

its the way you were brought up and the road you chose to get where you are today... dont even trip... you cant change them for being them. its not even ignorance... i expect to marry an asian girl-perferbly chinese... not because i am chinese but because i'm more attracted to them and thers a higher chance that she was raised as I was so we would have similar standards yadayada?

dont trip... thers always girls who will be more open to inter racial relationships...
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      11-27-2006, 05:40 PM   #78
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Just one thing to say.

Darwin... Natural selection.

If you don't understand what I mean, look it up!
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      11-27-2006, 06:25 PM   #79
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I better not comment. this here one sensitive subject and i dont wanna set off any nuclear reaction. lol.
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      11-27-2006, 10:17 PM   #80
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I have had this happen to me several times and not only because of my ethnicity but also my religion.
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      11-27-2006, 10:49 PM   #81
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      11-27-2006, 11:08 PM   #82
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I've been watching this thread for a while and I thought I would finally chime in.

First of all, how do you really know why someone rejected you. Even if they actually say your ethnicity is the reason maybe it was just the quickest excuse to get rid of you but it is really something else.

Second, everyone has a type they are attracted to and it certainly won't include everyone, that doesn't make them prejudice or a bad person.
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      11-27-2006, 11:34 PM   #83
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Its all been said, you can be rejected for any reason and any and all reasons are valid, especially the "I can't date you because I've seen your mother and I'm afraid of how you will turn out"
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      11-28-2006, 12:47 AM   #84
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hm old thread but here goes...if you're not the preferred one, just move on and dont even bother lookin back...its not because of your ethnicity only; someone may reject you because of other reasons as well eg. differences in personality, behavior, habits etc.
simple as that...unless you're fugly like me
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      11-28-2006, 02:36 AM   #85
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wow, the ethnicity thing is really a tough issue. i guess it depends on how you look at it:

on one hand, race shouldn't be a big deal, if any deal at all. there are beautiful girls/handsome guys from every race, and people's personalities are not necessarily dependent on their race. basically, to judge someone else solely on the color of their skin is completely ignorant.

on the other hand, race may be a big deal. it cannot be denied that race is often correlated strongly with one's culture. while this may not be a problem for the relationship between the man and the woman, it may be a problem for the couple's children. for example, i knew a girl that was asian/mexican mixed but she ended up looking completely mexican. not surprisingly, she completely adopted her mexican heritage and completely disregarded her chinese heritage (i.e., spoke spanish, was a latin american studies major, joined a latina sorority). in order to avoid this situation, some people may want to date/marry someone of the same race, so as to lessen the chance that their child will disavow the culture that often goes along w/ race.

that's just my 2 cents ...
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Well atleast you are not in the middle east

i moved to the Middle East 3 years ago (job thingy).

I am of Indian (not American Indian, Indian Indian) origin.

Racism is prevalent here to the point that landlords refuse to let houses to Indians. Pay is based on colour in some companies (mainly the middle eastern ones - who openly advertise certain positions only for certain colours). Generally, in the Middle Eastern companies (thank god I work for a Multi National), you will find that your position, salary and compensations are according to colour.

As for women, the Arab women are among the most racist in the world. They refuse to even look at "stinky Indians". Hell, some Brits and Americans I have run into here are openly racist.

Of course, there are exceptions (I have dated an arab woman myself) but by and large, they look down on Indians.

Its a pity salaries are extremely good here (no taxes either) so its hard to just pack up and leave.

Just consider yourself lucky you are not in the hypocritical, intolerant Middle Eat.

(living in Dubai - United Arab Emirates, Right now. And it is considered to be the best among the M.E countries. But when compared to home, it is still shit)

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