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      02-16-2016, 03:53 PM   #1
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At what age did you feel different or older?

I've done some thinking recently as I come closer to 30 and look towards the future. I feel significantly older now than I did when I was 22, 23, 24 or even 25... 26 and 27 for were some sort of turning points for me when things weren't the same anymore. As I look towards 30, I think about everything changing... no longer joking around the same, being far more mature, not really going out much at all anymore and focusing more on finding a wife and settling down. I guess I am a bit scared because these may be the last bits for me to get it all out... any advice, tips or the like? From older individuals?
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My only advice is to not try to plan out who you think you should be. Be who you are. Enjoy it and let changes come naturally. Ideally, the things you choose to change are a reflection of changing priorities and not so much a sacrifice on the altar of being more "respectable" or mature. I am like 50% older than you are and I still joke around like an idiot. Yes, I am "settled down", have a wife and 2 awesome kids, but the changes were letting one thing go to do something else - not because I thought I SHOULD'T do that thing, but because I wanted something different. Follow your heart - follow your values - do what you believe will bring you happiness and fulfillment. Fuck growing up for the sake of it. Grow into the person you want to be - not the one you always thought you had to be. That is my advice.
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My only advice is to not try to plan out who you think you should be. Be who you are. Enjoy it and let changes come naturally. Ideally, the things you choose to change are a reflection of changing priorities and not so much a sacrifice on the altar of being more "respectable" or mature. I am like 50% older than you are and I still joke around like an idiot. Yes, I am "settled down", have a wife and 2 awesome kids, but the changes were letting one thing go to do something else - not because I thought I SHOULD'T do that thing, but because I wanted something different. Follow your heart - follow your values - do what you believe will bring you happiness and fulfillment. Fuck growing up for the sake of it. Grow into the person you want to be - not the one you always thought you had to be. That is my advice.
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My only advice is to not try to plan out who you think you should be. Be who you are. Enjoy it and let changes come naturally. Ideally, the things you choose to change are a reflection of changing priorities and not so much a sacrifice on the altar of being more "respectable" or mature. I am like 50% older than you are and I still joke around like an idiot. Yes, I am "settled down", have a wife and 2 awesome kids, but the changes were letting one thing go to do something else - not because I thought I SHOULD'T do that thing, but because I wanted something different. Follow your heart - follow your values - do what you believe will bring you happiness and fulfillment. Fuck growing up for the sake of it. Grow into the person you want to be - not the one you always thought you had to be. That is my advice.
I agree with this.. Il turn 30 in August. My fiance says I'm 15 and feels like she is engaged to a teenager, but wouldnt let me go for anything. Just let the changes come to you and don't chase after them. You will know what you feel is the right thing to do vs bad. Enjoy life, have fun, and don't be a miserable fuck that people can't stand
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The only thing that makes me feel old is that my body is slower to recover from hard workouts.

And the fact that i'm beginning to realize my physical short comings before i injure myself. Not too long ago, i would always think i could still do the things i did 10 years ago without getting hurt. Now i think twice, really analyze it before giving it a go. Then i get hurt. lol

I still feel like i'm 20, if i'm in a car in which i can disable DSC, i'm getting sideways because it's fun. If i'm on a mountain bike, i'm looking for a way to launch off of something. If i'm wake boarding, i'm still going to try doing flips. If i'm skate boarding, i'm still going to do tricks. I still get excited about nights when i can eat cereal for dinner. Aside from my body taking longer to recover and heal, i'm anti-old.

Advice, find the woman that won't make you feel like a fuddy-duddy. Make sure she doesn't want you to be a fuddy-duddy. Don't act like a fuddy-duddy.
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My only advice is to not try to plan out who you think you should be. Be who you are. Enjoy it and let changes come naturally. Ideally, the things you choose to change are a reflection of changing priorities and not so much a sacrifice on the altar of being more "respectable" or mature. I am like 50% older than you are and I still joke around like an idiot. Yes, I am "settled down", have a wife and 2 awesome kids, but the changes were letting one thing go to do something else - not because I thought I SHOULD'T do that thing, but because I wanted something different. Follow your heart - follow your values - do what you believe will bring you happiness and fulfillment. Fuck growing up for the sake of it. Grow into the person you want to be - not the one you always thought you had to be. That is my advice.
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The only thing that makes me feel old is that my body is slower to recover from hard workouts.

And the fact that i'm beginning to realize my physical short comings before i injure myself. Not too long ago, i would always think i could still do the things i did 10 years ago without getting hurt. Now i think twice, really analyze it before giving it a go. Then i get hurt. lol

I still feel like i'm 20, if i'm in a car in which i can disable DSC, i'm getting sideways because it's fun. If i'm on a mountain bike, i'm looking for a way to launch off of something. If i'm wake boarding, i'm still going to try doing flips. If i'm skate boarding, i'm still going to do tricks. I still get excited about nights when i can eat cereal for dinner. Aside from my body taking longer to recover and heal, i'm anti-old.

Advice, find the woman that won't make you feel like a fuddy-duddy. Make sure she doesn't want you to be a fuddy-duddy. Don't act like a fuddy-duddy.

And, if we are being real about the physical part, I miraculously got shitty eyes when I turned 40. Didn't see THAT coming. (Well, I guess I wouldn't - of hell, you know what I mean.)
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I'm 36, was the class clown and still am the class clown.

Physically though it was at 30. Not right when I turned 30 but I remember getting ready in the morning one day and thinking when the hell did all this shit happen to my face? It wasn't gradual, sun spots, dried skin, wrinkles....overnight. Lol
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50 last year.

It actually only gets better.

But stuff does wear out. Shoulder surgery last year. Pain in the ass to climb off the floor to go get that tool you forgot.

But then you also have enough money to own a lift and you don't need to get on the floor!!!


Also realize that "Stuff" owns your ass. And it doesn't really make you happy. If you are buying stuff to be happy you need to re evaluate. It is what you do with the stuff that makes you happy.

Three great boys. Great wife. Great life. Wouldn't change much....

BTW I think about like what I guess would be me as a 27 year old today.
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50 last year.

It actually only gets better.

But stuff does wear out. Shoulder surgery last year. Pain in the ass to climb off the floor to go get that tool you forgot.

But then you also have enough money to own a lift and you don't need to get on the floor!!!


Also realize that "Stuff" owns your ass. And it doesn't really make you happy. If you are buying stuff to be happy you need to re evaluate. It is what you do with the stuff that makes you happy.

Three great boys. Great wife. Great life. Wouldn't change much....

BTW I think about like what I guess would be me as a 27 year old today.
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50 last year.

It actually only gets better.

But stuff does wear out. Shoulder surgery last year. Pain in the ass to climb off the floor to go get that tool you forgot.

But then you also have enough money to own a lift and you don't need to get on the floor!!!


Also realize that "Stuff" owns your ass. And it doesn't really make you happy. If you are buying stuff to be happy you need to re evaluate. It is what you do with the stuff that makes you happy.

Three great boys. Great wife. Great life. Wouldn't change much....

BTW I think about like what I guess would be me as a 27 year old today.
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Now, i'll throw the keys to just about anyone. Especially the friends i have that may never own or get to drive an M3, Porsche, Range Rover, etc... They are just cars and spreading the enjoyment of those cars to other people makes them even cooler.
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Glad someone who took a different route and is happy chimed in. Goes to show that there is not one way. Cheers gonzo
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I saw skateboarding...

I was pretty dang good waaaaay back. Hopped on a friend of my nephews board at family do dad. I said "watch 4 360's"
Got around almost to the second, tailed out, ate the driveway, peeled off driveway, said later fellas, went and hid with the old people inside talking about the same crap as the last time I saw them.

I still want the adrenaline but the body makes me pay. Pins, plates, stitches and lots of bourbon.
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I saw skateboarding...

I was pretty dang good waaaaay back. Hopped on a friend of my nephews board at family do dad. I said "watch 4 360's"
Got around almost to the second, tailed out, ate the driveway, peeled off driveway, said later fellas, went and hid with the old people inside talking about the same crap as the last time I saw them.

I still want the adrenaline but the body makes me pay. Pins, plates, stitches and lots of bourbon.
Are you pounding chicks left and right?
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Are you pounding chicks left and right?
Chicks dig scars and x-rays of broken bones. lol
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Are you pounding chicks left and right?
Honestly, no. The drive does lessen. I have some formers that love to go to dinner and...
Animal magnetism at a bar every now and then I guess.

I'll say this, I've got more movies in my head from my late teens to early thirties to keep me grinning in my wheelchair than I can even count.
I'm just starting but if I don't wake up tomorrow, I've had a freaking awesome life!

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TURN OFF THE INTERNET AND GO MAKE MEMORIES

I didn't have the internet in college much less high school. I had a thing called a bicycle that took me to a thing called a library. That library thing was full of pretty girls.
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Honestly, no. The drive does lessen. I have some formers that love to go to dinner and...
Animal magnetism at a bar every now and then I guess.

I'll say this, I've got more movies in my head from my late teens to early thirties to keep me grinning in my wheelchair than I can even count.
I'm just starting but if I don't wake up tomorrow, I've had a freaking awesome life!

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TURN OFF THE INTERNET AND GO MAKE MEMORIES

I didn't have the internet in college much less high school. I had a thing called a bicycle that took me to a thing called a library. That library thing was full of pretty girls.
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One of my skater pals from back in the day and i were just talking about this yesterday. We were ranting about not having HD cam corders in our phones or even having phones when we were doing all of our crazy stuff. But as cool as it would be to have pictures and videos of the crazy shit we did, not having that instant, digital, connectivity that would have come with it is part of what made growing up in our generation awesome.

Don't get me wrong, i wish GoPros and phone cameras would have been around for documenting shit that people sometimes question whether or not i was capable of doing. But having no way of contacting us once we left the house was awesome. Pick up a phone, with a line attached to it. "Hey John, we're going to meet there at 2pm." John was there come hell or high water at 2pm. Cool how that worked back then. No text message at 1:59 from John saying he can't make it or was going to be late. (likely from wasting time on the internet) He was just there because if he didn't show up he'd fuck our whole day up and never be invited again.

I preferred the early business days as well. I remember when the fax paper only came in a roll. lol That was cutting edge tech at the time. "No he's not in the office at the moment, can i take a message?" And they expected a call back some time within the next 24 hours. NOT the next 24 seconds. Now i get a damn text message (before receiving the email) saying, i just left you a VM at your office and sent you an email. I NEED an answer NOW!!

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I'm 35, most of my friends are around the same age and we all still act like we're 25. The only time we feel old is when we're around actual 25 year olds.
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I'm 35, most of my friends are around the same age and we all still act like we're 25. The only time we feel old is when we're around actual 25 year olds.
That's when it hits but then we all start cracking up about it. Nothing changes.
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My advice to younger people...
TURN OFF THE INTERNET AND GO MAKE MEMORIES
This is what I'm doing. Not tied down to anyone, or anything for that matter, so while I'm young it's all about travel, embracing old hobbies, experiencing new hobbies, and just being who I am no matter who I meet.


I'd say the past real change of feeling was a year ago when the mindset really changed and got more on track and understood what was needed. A year later now I feel completely different than last year, so it's a constant change and being aware of surroundings and what the next move is. Not always in a tactical sense, but more so what can I do to assure that I'm getting the most out of life with my actions.
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32 here, not much older than you but I know what you are saying. I feel like a big kid with a lot more responsibilities. I try not to stress over things now worth stressing about. I believe that we only get old in our bodies and everything else tries to stay young; our minds, our hearts and our sense of humor. Though I know this is not always the case, I try to live this way. If we just get old, tired and are grumpy all the time, what kind of life would that be? Make the best of it and make changes accordingly. Take the path of least resistance to where you want to go. I am not saying to be lazy and do nothing, but live in the moment! Don't force things to happen when they weren't meant to be.

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