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      11-16-2010, 03:47 PM   #1
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In a tough situation...what should I do? (advise needed) UPDATED

My mom gave me $2,900 in cash to pay for airline tickets that I charged on my card. I left some on my T.V. room table and some in my room. I haven't touched it ever since. A week later when I decided to deposit the cash I realized that I am $600 short, and now I can't make my payment. The cash can't just disappear for no reason. The only people in my house during that period was my mom, sister, her boyfriend, and my girlfriend who I just got with for 2+ months. There is no way that my sister's boyfriend will take the money. He has been with my sister for many years, he is pretty well off, and he doesn't even go into the T.V. room or my room.

So here are the possibilities...

I misplaced it...but I haven't touched the money ever since my mom gave it to me.

My mom gave me the wrong amount of money...but why $600?

My girlfriend who I just got with for 2+ months took it. She was at my house for many days during that week. She spends all her time in the T.V. room and my room. She is not very well off, and needs money for many things. She will sometimes ask for $100 allowance from me as a joke.

It is hard not to think that my girlfriend is the one who took the money, but this is just an assumption. I don't want to put it on her when I am not sure. If she didn't do it and I put it on her I will be a very bad person.

What should I do?

UPDATE:

I have been checking the comments everyday, thanks for the comments guys.

Well here is what happened...

I told my girlfriend about it and asked if she took it and told her I think she took it, but she said she didn't.

I asked my mom about it and she told me she gave me the right amount of money, and said it was my fault to leave that much money on the table. (I know it was my fault, I was lazy and did not think anyone would take it.)

Here is what I did to test my girlfriend...

I kept asking/bugging my girlfriend about it for couple days. In the beginning she calmly told me that she did not take it and wanted me to trust her. She told me why would she do something like this to make me not like her. I bugged her to the point that she would shed tears right away. This made me think she probably did not take it since she could shed tears right away. If she took it she wouldn't be able to shed tears that easily...right?

Be depressed for couple days. She said when I'm depressed then she's depressed. Couple days later she gets mad for me giving her that depressed look/attitude all the time since she didn't take it.

Told her I am in debt and need $600 to pay for my credit card. I asked if I could borrow $600 from her, she told me she doesn't have that much money and would give it to me if she does and see if I can ask my mom for help.

She asked me if I could let her borrow some money to buy a pair of UGG for black Friday and some clothes from her work place since they are having a big sale. These things made me think she really didn't take the money...right?

In the end, I guess the only guess is my mom gave me the wrong amount of money?

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The thing is I didn't count the money when my mom gave it to me. Like I said, I didn't touch the money at all. I assumed it was that much because that was the amount she was suppose to give me and she said she gave me. Plus, when I told my mom about it all she said was she told me not to leave the money on the table and to deposit the money right away. She didn't mention anything about the GF when she knew she was the prime suspect.

If I know for sure my girlfriend took it then of course I will leave her right away, but how am I going to leave/blame her if I don't know for sure she did it? If she really didn't do it that would be very unfair for her and makes me a terrible person.

I am the type of person who thinks everything should be fair, so I don't really pay for alot of things when we go out like what most guys would do for their girlfriends. I don't really buy her stuffs for no reason, I only do it when there is a reason/occasion. We talked about these kind of things many times so she knows, and she calls me stingy but o well.

She asked me to let her borrow money to buy clothes form her work place because she tried to use her debit card but it didn't work, and since it was a big sale she didn't want someone else to buy it. She told me she would give it back to me the next day, because she knew I will bug her about it. That night, I went to the ATM with her to see what was wrong with her debit card it turned out she didn't have enough money in there so she couldn't use it. I am guessing she really doesn't have money since she couldn't even get money out of the ATM.

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      11-16-2010, 03:55 PM   #2
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take her to the back and shoot her.


my boys ex secretly made a copy of his keys, and used to come to his house while he was at work, go through his things and stole cash from his stash. as soon as he noticed missing cash, we installed couple of cameras in his house and busted her within a day.

if you think its your girl, leave some more cash, setup a camera and wait. this will give you the answer, wether you want it or not.
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Unlucky. First thing I would do is ask your mum to double check how much she gave you. For example if she took it out the bank she can double check her statement to see exactly how much she took out.

Also, from what you said it sounds like it wouldnt be the boyfriend. So that just leaves your sister and gf, who do you think would take it? I'm thinking gf right now but I've learned in situations especially with money dont ever be sure about anything until you can prove it.
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take her to the back and shoot her.


my boys ex secretly made a copy of his keys, and used to come to his house while he was at work, go through his things and stole cash from his stash. as soon as he noticed missing cash, we installed couple of cameras in his house and busted her within a day.

if you think its your girl, leave some more cash, setup a camera and wait. this will give you the answer, wether you want it or not.
VERY good idea to be honest. I would do this.
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      11-16-2010, 04:00 PM   #6
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Own up to the fact that you made a dumbass mistake and left a huge wad of cash on the counter unattended.

1. Pay as much as you can and just pay off the rest next month. Say nothing to anyone and let it slide. Problem with this is that if it was your GF she'll take your saying nothing as reinforcment that she can get by doing shit like this.

2. Confront the GF and see how she reacts. If the GF took it you need to get rid of her anyway... no offense but the one you have right now seems pretty needy. Charity cases are always that. Charity. If you can't afford charity then you need to move on.
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      11-16-2010, 04:08 PM   #7
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OP, I think you know the answer. Bitches are lying liars who lie.

When I was in HS, I had a girl over that I just started to hang out with. She stole shit from my mom's jewelry box (earrings and a ring). She told a friend of hers what she did, it got back to me, and I got her parents to let me in her house and found the stuff on her desk. I just found out about 8 months ago she now works as a stripper.

I agree with solefald - setup a sting or something and nail her ass to the wall. Good luck and hope you find it.
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I bet you lost it
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Or spent it on Coke and now can't remember...
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Your gf took it..she will deny it..and ull be out $600 and a lying thief..

If u dont have time to set up a video camera..play this game: Tell ur gf that u lost $600 of that money and ur totally screwed and dont know what to do. Then try to read her..see what happens...
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      11-16-2010, 04:35 PM   #11
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its something else for a stranger to still your money...

however if its a gf, damn that is one low class gf you got.
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Your gf took it..she will deny it..and ull be out $600 and a lying thief..

If u dont have time to set up a video camera..play this game: Tell ur gf that u lost $600 of that money and ur totally screwed and dont know what to do. Then try to read her..see what happens...
I agree with this. Don't come out just blaming her, ask her if she has seen the cash because you lost it. Explain that you won't be able to pay rent or something to make it look like you are screwed. See what she does.

Any try not to leave cash out in any situation. If it wasn't one of them, what happens if someone broke it and took it all?
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Youre an idiot for leaving cash out. Your parents shouldn't have bought you a BMW.
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      11-16-2010, 05:21 PM   #14
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I call BS, no way the TV room can fit in the kitchen
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Explain that you won't be able to pay rent or something to make it look like you are screwed. See what she does.
Gonna be difficult with a 335 in the garage and stacks of cash that are apparently commonplace round his pad. LULZ
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Gonna be difficult with a 335 in the garage and stacks of cash that are apparently commonplace round his pad. LULZ
Or just tell her that he wanted to buy a gas station and now $600 short.
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Why were you leaving your money all around your place? I hate to say it, but this is so irresponsible I don't even know what to think. That is over a months salary for most people. And you left it scattered in 2 places in your apartment? While having people walking around your place?

I don't even..
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Wow, that sucks.

My advice is to chalk it up as a lesson learned. Your girl got some blow or maybe some Thunder from Down Under, and you'll never leave cash out again. Everybody wins.
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Whether your GF took your money or not, from the way you described her you should ditch her either way. You said "sometimes" she asked you for $100 allowances, which means she's said it more than once. No she wasn't telling it as jokes. She was trying to play it off as jokes (and see how far she could get you to go), but she said exactly what was on her mind. You're dealing with (what sounds like a young version of) a gold digger here and you just may not see it now.

And what are you doing seeing your GF many times a week? That's a good way of advertising yourself as a wussie who has nothing better to do and a quick way to lose a GF. You shouldn't see her more than a couple of times.
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Double check with mom, and if you still actually like this girl, maybe just ask her if she's seen it, and let her know that it's money you're going to have to pay back. Hopefully she will be honest.
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My girlfriend who I just got with for 2+ months took it. She was at my house for many days during that week. She spends all her time in the T.V. room and my room. She is not very well off, and needs money for many things. She will sometimes ask for $100 allowance from me as a joke.

It is hard not to think that my girlfriend is the one who took the money, but this is just an assumption. I don't want to put it on her when I am not sure. If she didn't do it and I put it on her I will be a very bad person.
this statement says it all...shes obviously your no 1 suspect and has the motive...you wouldnt write all those details if u didnt already think it was her...go with ur gut bro...its usually right
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