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      01-19-2007, 10:52 AM   #1
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How many still with their first gf?

Fuuck after a year of going out with my gf she told me doesnt wanna be with me anymore and her reasoning was that we are more like friends now and shit isnt the same as it was in the begining. I'm only 18 but still she was my first real girlfriend...i feel like shit coz I'm not gonna be the one to make the first call if thats how she feels then I'm not gonna beg her not to. But damn I am really hurt, I am attacthed to this girl. Do any of you guys hae advice for me? And are/were you attacthed to your first real gf?
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I don't even remember my first gf's name - it was waaaaaaaay too many moons ago
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      01-19-2007, 11:10 AM   #3
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Sorry to hear that bro, but lucky for you, it was only a year.

If you truly still want her to be w/you, i'd say you give it a shot n talk to her about it, and see where it gets you. Never hurts to try, and don't let your pride get in the way.


However on the flipside, don't worry, give it some time, you'll be fine. As the saying goes, theres plenty of other fish in the sea
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      01-19-2007, 11:13 AM   #4
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Dude, you're 18. That's sooooooo young.

I'm always amazed by people who date the same person throughout highschool and college. There are so many people out there; plus at that age you don't know what you do or do not want in life.
Don't get tied up in a serious relationship at this point - it may sound selfish, but focus on yourself. between about 17-25 you go through so many changes/phases... attending college, graduating college, finding your first job, etc. You'll find your priorities are going to change a ton.

I'm sure I'm not the only one who can say that before I was 22, my longest relationship was maybe 3 months at max.
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      01-19-2007, 11:46 AM   #5
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Fuuck after a year of going out with my gf she told me doesnt wanna be with me anymore and her reasoning was that we are more like friends now and shit isnt the same as it was in the begining. I'm only 18 but still she was my first real girlfriend...i feel like shit coz I'm not gonna be the one to make the first call if thats how she feels then I'm not gonna beg her not to. But damn I am really hurt, I am attacthed to this girl. Do any of you guys hae advice for me? And are/were you attacthed to your first real gf?
I just have one thing to say to you my friend... you are WAYYYYY to young!! Hell eff it, I am still too young (22)... There are so many girls out there, and even if you were with this girl for so long, you still don't know what you want... All you know is what she has and nothing about what other girls have to offer.

Dude, in all seriousness go build up your resume... Get laid like 10 times by 10 diffrent girls, then come back here and post a DIY on how to find the right one. Even mathematically speaking, just by using standard probability... The more girls you get to know, the higher the chances are that you'll find another one.

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Dude, you're 18...there will be plenty of girls, so don't sweat it. Truth be told, being with your first gf forever and marrying her isn't a great idea...you'll both always wonder "what if", or "what else is out there". Trust me, read this post again in a couple of years...you'll get a good laugh out of it.
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      01-19-2007, 12:50 PM   #7
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It's going to be fine. It may seem like the world is ending, but it just takes time. Everyone has one girlfriend that they got really attached too and lost. Just the way life goes. However, like everyone has said, you are really young. Stay busy, and don't dwell on it and good things will happen when you least expect.
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      01-19-2007, 12:56 PM   #8
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It's going to be fine. It may seem like the world is ending, but it just takes time. Everyone has one girlfriend that they got really attached too and lost. Just the way life goes. However, like everyone has said, you are really young. Stay busy, and don't dwell on it and good things will happen when you least expect.

dude we need a girl's opinion.. bring that girl nikki in here, see what she has to say...
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Trust me, read this post again in a couple of years...you'll get a good laugh out of it.
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      01-19-2007, 01:48 PM   #10
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Ouch. It's gonna take you a long ass time to get over her since she's ur first love. Take sometime to heal: go out with friends, just do whatever to keep your mind off of her. After a few months start talking to girls and go from there.
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      01-19-2007, 01:54 PM   #11
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This is basically what happened with my boyfriend of 3 years. Like everyone said, you're young and there will probably be plenty other girls in your life.
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      01-19-2007, 01:59 PM   #12
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Ouch. It's gonna take you a long ass time to get over her since she's ur first love. Take sometime to heal: go out with friends, just do whatever to keep your mind off of her. After a few months start talking to girls and go from there.
Agreed, the first one is probably the worst to get over, but once you do and move on, it'll be that much better. Like what others say, you're still very young, and there's plenty of other girls out there. Not to be a pessimist, but most HS couples break up when they get into college, because that's when they discover themselves, and realize what they really want in life.

My advice is to try to get your mind off her. But regardless of what you do, don't go begging back to her and try to swoon her to get back with you. That'll only make you seem desperate and she'll be even more turned off from you. If you give her her time, she might come around and realize how much she misses your friendship/companionship. Good luck man!
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      01-19-2007, 02:37 PM   #13
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Agreed, the first one is probably the worst to get over, but once you do and move on, it'll be that much better. Like what others say, you're still very young, and there's plenty of other girls out there. Not to be a pessimist, but most HS couples break up when they get into college, because that's when they discover themselves, and realize what they really want in life.

My advice is to try to get your mind off her. But regardless of what you do, don't go begging back to her and try to swoon her to get back with you. That'll only make you seem desperate and she'll be even more turned off from you. If you give her her time, she might come around and realize how much she misses your friendship/companionship. Good luck man!
And most college couples break up after college My college girlfriend (of almost 5 years) and I broke up while we were in grad school. I'd say that for many people, you don't know what you are looking for in a partner until your mid to late 20s.
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      01-19-2007, 03:38 PM   #15
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this year will be our 11th year. thats right i said year. you're only 18 man. give it up.

BTW: she was not my first gf.
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this year will be our 11th year. thats right i said year. you're only 18 man. give it up.

BTW: she was not my first gf.
see this guy here???? good example. loyalty. man.
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      01-19-2007, 04:25 PM   #18
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what i find most funny about exes is the number of guys who end up "hating" their exes just because they broke up. i rarely find people who say... my ex was great... but we're just not meant for each or something of that variation.

but yeah my ex... was great... but shes like engaged or something now... and shes 19 ;0
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I think a more appropriate title for this thread is "who is still with his first wife"...
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      01-19-2007, 07:11 PM   #20
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I think a more appropriate title for this thread is "who is still with his first wife"...
i am!


but not my second, and the third is on the rocks.
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dude, at age 18...youll have a so many more gf's. at this point youre probably only learning what you really want in a relationship...youve got so much more to grow... when you turn 21, thats when the party really begins... youre gonna meet so much more women and theres going to be a point where youre like, daym... i cant even imagine i was trippin over my 1st gf.. but hey, dont worry about it thats normal especially when you werent the one who wanted to break up. mourn over it for a min, shed a tear or two but thats it. you probably deserve better than her anyway. it might hurt but it will probably make you stronger. to get over it, just try to have fun for now and date ALOT... for me, its #6 i think and they just keep getting better. youll soon learn that "nothing gets you over the last one, like the next one".

on the other hand, if its really meant to be, she'll be back. "set it free, and if it returns, then it was meant to be".

be strong and keep ya head up
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its only natural for u to feel bad... now go out w/ like a 1,000 gurls and don't ever get married till 30 earliest, party hard, have sex and have fun

this will probably be the best thing to happen to u, trust me,
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