Am I right or wrong, need opinions

[!Xoible]

no dude, she's happy coz she doesnt know. ur using that.

i agree men are as faithful as their options but when u cheat u should know ur fucking up ur real relationship

[stooken]

Originally Posted by jj thumper

It seems as if people are typing from their soapboxes. I highly doubt most men would turn down relations when the opportunity presents itself. It doesn’t affect my love for my girlfriend.

Every time I see her I am excited; even still, and vice versa, I pay all her expenses as she starts her career as an artist and our families get along great.

She is happy, that’s what counts.

wow, that is a total sack of shit.

you distinctly said you go chasing after other females so the opportunity doesn't present itself. you create the opportunities. sex is sex. its whats underneath that counts and apparently, you don't see that. you obviously don't respect her.

i take back what i said in my previous post. you're the one with issues not the relationship. justifying your cheating habits like that is just ridiculous.

your girl is happy for all the wrong reasons. your relationship is a complete lie. if you love the girl like you say you do then let her go. save her the heartache because you are F'ed up in the head.

[hks786]

Originally Posted by jj thumper

It seems as if people are typing from their soapboxes. I highly doubt most men would turn down relations when the opportunity presents itself. It doesn’t affect my love for my girlfriend.

Every time I see her I am excited; even still, and vice versa, I pay all her expenses as she starts her career as an artist and our families get along great.

She is happy, that’s what counts.

I have to say I agree with what some of other people are saying. I'm not tryna say you're a bad person or anything, we all make mistakes, but here's a few things to think about...

- You know what you did was wrong because there's no way you would be happy if you were her and this happened to you.

- It's concerning that you have cheated more than once. If you love your gf and she is everything a man could want, then why do you find yourself going elsewhere? Being human isnt an excuse, what you did was wrong.

- I agree that she is only happy because she doesnt know. Otherwise, you would have told her about the cheating as soon as they happened. (I'm assuming you didnt, correct me if I'm wrong!)

- I'm also concerned about the fact you "chase" females as other people have mentioned.

Anyway, what my advice to you would be, tell your gf everything. Tell her about the mistakes you made, but also tell her how much she means to you. Then let her make the decision if you guys should get married or not. Also tell her if you can promise it wont happen again, dont make promises you cant keep though!

[EZ_TUR90]

Originally Posted by aut0sh0cker

PRENUP!

Prenuptial agreement doesn’t do shit if the husband cheats on the wife! Marriage is an agreement a contract! It’s the same way if your wife cheats on you, the person who has been cheated on can take all future earning as well. Just dont cheat when married!!!

[louz4]

Originally Posted by 'Cane

You're just trying to justify your infidelity. Grow up.

This sums it up nicely

[Blake]

wow there is so much i would love to add to this thread without being completely charbroiled by a flame fest but i suppose i'll hold my tongue.

[aut0sh0cker]

The real question is, did you cheat on her before or after you decided that she was the one? I mean, if you cheated on her a long time ago when you guys were still dating, before you got serious, then that is no big deal really, and I would just let it go. IF, however, you cheated AFTER you decided that you loved her and she was "the one" I would end this now before this gets out of hand...

[jj thumper]

Originally Posted by stooken

wow, that is a total sack of shit.

you distinctly said you go chasing after other females so the opportunity doesn't present itself. you create the opportunities. sex is sex. its whats underneath that counts and apparently, you don't see that. you obviously don't respect her.

i take back what i said in my previous post. you're the one with issues not the relationship. justifying your cheating habits like that is just ridiculous.

your girl is happy for all the wrong reasons. your relationship is a complete lie. if you love the girl like you say you do then let her go. save her the heartache because you are F'ed up in the head.

What I did is fundamentally wrong. I can’t change the past. Nor can I promise not to do something in the future. Our decisions are based on the circumstances at the time.

So the general consensus is that I am getting is that I should tell her. She is happy, why would I risk destroying our relationship? She isn’t happy for the wrong reasons. That makes no sense. She is happy because I make her happy.

[number335]

Originally Posted by jj thumper

I cheated 3 times over 2 years. I am 27 years old.

You should be asking your girlfriend this question, not us. At this rate you would have cheated on her about 20 times by the age of 40. If she's okay with that, then so am I.

[SoYank]

Originally Posted by jj thumper

She is happy because I make her happy.

I don't think that's going to be a true statement when she finds out about the others.

[DougLikesBMW]

Originally Posted by jj thumper

What I did is fundamentally wrong. I can’t change the past. Nor can I promise not to do something in the future. Our decisions are based on the circumstances at the time.

So the general consensus is that I am getting is that I should tell her. She is happy, why would I risk destroying our relationship? She isn’t happy for the wrong reasons. That makes no sense. She is happy because I make her happy.

LMFAO!:

You are one stupid motherfucker.

[Sal@AUTOcouture]

If she's "the one" then you'll have no reason to cheat, homie...

[!Xoible]

Originally Posted by DougLikesBMW

LMFAO!:

You are one stupid motherfucker.

YOU EARN MY VOTE

[Sal@AUTOcouture]

Also, how would you feel on the flip side? What if she's cheated on you, but you're "happy"?

[DougLikesBMW]

Originally Posted by ///Mantis

YOU EARN MY VOTE

Huh?

[jj thumper]

Originally Posted by AutoCouture

Also, how would you feel on the flip side? What if she's cheated on you, but you're "happy"?

If i didnt know about it. Then whatever. People are people.

[F87LUV]

denial is strong

[oldaccount]

Originally Posted by jj thumper

I cheated 3 times over 2 years. I am 27 years old.

lulz. your girlfriend is a retard.

that is all.

[jlstyle]

Wow.
You cheated and don't feel bad.
That is wrong. Sorry man, but you are very wrong.
Try to think other way around, lets say your gf had cheated on you and chasing on other guys and say she doesn't feel bad about it since she is dedicated about you.
Would you still love her the same way you did?

[Crimson92]

Originally Posted by jj thumper

A poll question about life

I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. I love her and she is perfect for me. She is everything a man could want. Being a man, my mind wanders and I find myself still chasing other females and I have cheated on her. I don’t think i am wrong in doing so. If I am a supportive husband and father I don’t see how this makes me a bad guy.

Life is never black or white, it’s always gray.

Do you agree? Or am I wrong.

if youve cheated once, youll cheat again, chances are youre not ready for marriage

[number335]

Originally Posted by jj thumper

If i didnt know about it. Then whatever. People are people.

Wow. So as long as you didn't know about it, although she would be playing you for a fool, you would be okay with her cheating on you? Amazing.

[krote345]

Ha, what a fucked up thread. Surprised no one has brought the whole fatherhood thing into it. Please explain how you're a good dad if you're banging other women after work instead of coming home to your kids? When your wife finds out and wants a divorce, how does that affect your children?

Come clean man, it's the only way to salvage your relationship with your girl. Unfortunately, if she's smart, she'll move on.