Serious question: did my M3 lead me to an affair?

[JayKay335i]

Step 1) Don't marry a waitress

[Sara]

She's just a little sugarbunny.

[solefald]

Originally Posted by Titanium Silver

I want to post pics. LOL... Thread is starting to get boring.

do it. this shit will explode for days! lol

[HeartMD]

Originally Posted by AngelinIsRich08

Forget about this gold-digger. Tell her you don't want to hurt your wife and kids and leave. Also, if she's a bitch after you explain yourself post us her number.

LMFAO!!!!!!!!

[WWONG]

Originally Posted by TheAcAvenger

4 pages and no one suggested a threesome.

+1

[FLOSS M]

Just to clarify - this is all related to driving an M3. Are you serious, it's a nice car but not an exotic!

Dude, you married your wife, RESPECT HER!!! Those VOWS you took really do mean something, in situations like this. Don't do it and forget it.

[lopealle]

There's nothing like getting head from a woman that loves to give it....


Do it OP I wont judge you....

[zgood4u]

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

Step 1) Don't marry a waitress

She wasn't when I married her, I was pussy blind and she was a party girl. FYI, it was also about 30 years ago.

[ideliver]

Plain and simple...it is an infatuation...in my line of work...I see the effects of cheating husbands every day... It is devastating...do you really want to hurt your wife like that???

If not...then be a man and act like you have been here before!!

I am fairly attractive, financially well of, in a position of power and to be honest women are frequently attracted to me...you should see the texts that these women send!!!

Do I act on this??? No, because having a woman attracted to me is not a new experience.

Plain and simple... It ends badly...and you know it

Do the right thing...then go get some counseling

[NYCGP]

Originally Posted by zgood4u

She wasn't when I married her, I was pussy blind and she was a party girl. FYI, it was also about 30 years ago.

10 year coke addiction. Dude, you had issues before she got knocked up.

OP you are already fucked. Your wife noticed how much different you are acting and is now wondering why. She has hired a PI and he has been following you. You're life is ruined. Might as well take it out on this whore. Because you won't be able to fuck someone that looks like her ever again when your wife is done putting you through the wringer.

GL OP!

[zgood4u]

10 year coke addiction. Dude, you had issues before she got knocked up.

You are correct and this further exasperated any issues I had and so the spiral began. Been done with that crap for 20 years.

[JayKay335i]

Originally Posted by zgood4u

She wasn't when I married her, I was pussy blind and she was a party girl. FYI, it was also about 30 years ago.

This pretty much backs up my whole idea that I don't want to be with somebody who is on a "different level" when it comes to work/education. I'm a professional. I tend to fuck woman with 4-8 less years of education. Its all dandy and all but I don't think I'd settle down with anybody with less than a bachelors at the very least, or somebody who has really made it for themselves without the need for school (hard to find these days). Anyway. I think it creates a small divide when you are on those different levels, that small divide leads to a bigger one, and next thing you know your waitress wife is having trains ran on her by apron wearing line cooks.

[Elliott@DetailAddict]

Originally Posted by rainNed

I am a long time member of this forum. This is obviously not my established account. I don't want to reveal who I am.

I don't (can't) reveal the circumstances, but recently I have become friends with a female who probably became interested in me due in large part to my car. That's a shallow reason to be attracted to someone, no doubt. There is a lot more to the story, but I don't feel like I can tell it right now.

But, this post isn't really about that. This post is actually a full-on cry for help. I am a married man. A happily married man, in fact. But no marriage is perfect. And this girl and I have become attached, obsessed and frankly, entrenched. The only thing keeping me from stepping out on my wife is me. This woman is ready to take things to the next level - to whatever level we can imagine. I am fighting every ounce of my fucking will power to keep this from becoming a huge mistake and a huge bucket of regret.

What the hell do I do? Can someone please talk some sense into me? Oh and before someone says it, yes she is hot and no I can't post pics, sorry.

Sounds like you already made a huge mistake and should regret it.

If your married thats an oath. Should have sought divorce before messing around. Sorry but I'm a man of my word and marriage is a huge promise. Don't make it if you can't keep it.

Good luck in your situation though none-the-less. Your wife deserves to know.

[zgood4u]

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

This pretty much backs up my whole idea that I don't want to be with somebody who is on a "different level" when it comes to work/education. I'm a professional. I tend to fuck woman with 4-8 less years of education. Its all dandy and all but I don't think I'd settle down with anybody with less than a bachelors at the very least, or somebody who has really made it for themselves without the need for school (hard to find these days). Anyway. I think it creates a small divide when you are on those different levels, that small divide leads to a bigger one, and next thing you know your waitress wife is having trains ran on her by apron wearing line cooks.

Couldn't agree with you more. At the time of that marriage I was a full time bar musician and that was the level of girl that was I was involved with, not exceptionally bright but more than available for any and all manner of depravity. Times have changed and I have a good solid 18 years with the current beau who is a brilliant conversationalist with a very twisted sense of humor and am absolutely happy.

[donovan]

80 20 rule...

80 percent of the women you want only have 20 percent of the quality of the women that takes care of you.

[JayKay335i]

Originally Posted by donovan

80 20 rule...

80 percent of the women you want only have 20 percent of the quality of the women that takes care of you.

True. I've never had a woman take care of me like the one I see now but that spark just isn't there and it kills it. Sex is great though.

She's making me pulled pork tonight. Cant complain I guess.

Thanks Poleposition, you won the voice of reason award.

Thanks to everyone else for your replies too. For what it is worth:

- I knew that I would get called every name in the book when I made this post. That was part of the reason why I did it.

- I knew this would show up on google. Again that's a good thing. You knew what search terms to use to get here. My wife or anyone else in my life for that matter, is not going to google around and find this. And if they do, well, I guess I deserve it.

- Again, I can't talk to a friend about this, at least not yet. All of my good friends have wives, and their wives know my wife. If you are married you will understand why revealing any of this to my buddies would be a real bad idea.

I went on vacation with the wife and kids this weekend, and it was a huge wake-up call. It was just what I needed to realize that the life I have is amazing and beautiful and I would be a complete failure if I traded it for some cheap fling.

Just to clear up a few things:

- I am an attractive guy who gets noticed by the opposite sex so I don't need a car or any other help to get women. So no, this isn't the first time I have been in a position where I had to man-up and respect my vows and it won't be the last either. However, this was the first time since I have been married that I was pushed this close to the brink.

- This girl literally sits about 5 feet away from me so, I am indeed in an almost impossible situation. I have some ideas of what I can do to make things better, but right now the best weapon I have is self control.

- The first day I started this job a group of us went out to eat and I was one of the people that drove. When we started to head back to work, this girl asked the driver of the car she was in to stop so she should come get in my car. That doesn't happen if you are driving a minivan. So, with that, you can all decide for yourself how much the car played a role here.

In conclusion, I feel like my head is right and I am thinking with my brain instead of my dick now, so thank you all collectively for helping to save my marriage.

Originally Posted by Poleposition

Sorry to say but you're fucked. You mentioned that you guys work together. This means you have to see her everyday. You need to end it now before it gets physical. If you think its hard to cease communication now, wait til you bang her. If you end it now, you guys will always have this exciting secret to think back on and no harm done. If you proceed as she wants to, you will F**K your life as you know it. This includes work, home, kids, everything. The second you pull your D**K out of her, you'll be so sorry you did it and you'll want to punch her in the face. Also, when you go home that night, you wont be able to look at your kids without an overwhelming feeling of guilt coming over you. While it may be exciting to know you can still attract a female, in your situation as described, there are WAY too many downsides. I would abort mission immediately and save yourself a life changing world full of hurt. Focus on your wife and your life. You'll be a better man for it.

[Poleposition]

Originally Posted by rainNed

Thanks Poleposition, you won the voice of reason award.

np

[M3Bahn]

Originally Posted by rainNed

Thanks Poleposition, you won the voice of reason award.

Thanks to everyone else for your replies too. For what it is worth:

- I knew that I would get called every name in the book when I made this post. That was part of the reason why I did it.

- I knew this would show up on google. Again that's a good thing. You knew what search terms to use to get here. My wife or anyone else in my life for that matter, is not going to google around and find this. And if they do, well, I guess I deserve it.

- Again, I can't talk to a friend about this, at least not yet. All of my good friends have wives, and their wives know my wife. If you are married you will understand why revealing any of this to my buddies would be a real bad idea.

I went on vacation with the wife and kids this weekend, and it was a huge wake-up call. It was just what I needed to realize that the life I have is amazing and beautiful and I would be a complete failure if I traded it for some cheap fling.

Just to clear up a few things:

- I am an attractive guy who gets noticed by the opposite sex so I don't need a car or any other help to get women. So no, this isn't the first time I have been in a position where I had to man-up and respect my vows and it won't be the last either. However, this was the first time since I have been married that I was pushed this close to the brink.

- This girl literally sits about 5 feet away from me so, I am indeed in an almost impossible situation. I have some ideas of what I can do to make things better, but right now the best weapon I have is self control.

- The first day I started this job a group of us went out to eat and I was one of the people that drove. When we started to head back to work, this girl asked the driver of the car she was in to stop so she should come get in my car. That doesn't happen if you are driving a minivan. So, with that, you can all decide for yourself how much the car played a role here.

In conclusion, I feel like my head is right and I am thinking with my brain instead of my dick now, so thank you all collectively for helping to save my marriage.

Just realize especially since she works so close to you she may flip out when you go cold on her so you are not out of the grass yet... a woman scorned is not a pretty sight.
I predict if you don't get some counseling you will probably cheat at some point.