Wow..what should i do?!

NaTuReB0Y · 12-25-2005, 02:39 PM

send him back to Cuba with a box of generic cigar!

IDENTITY_MOTORSPORTS · 12-25-2005, 04:29 PM

Hey Bella,
Sorry to hear. I'm sure things will get better. They always do. Try tohave a good x-mas and new year.

StewtheBassman · 12-25-2005, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by BellasBmw

He actually would rag on me everytime i mentioned the forum or the meets. He thought it was "nerdy" and asked why i want to hang out with a bunch of dudes for? I said well, my car has something to do with it.

One of the reasons why i didnt go to the rosemead meet was cause he didnt want me to. I would ask him over and over to come, but he said he personally doesnt want to sit around and look/talk about cars. Its lame.

yet he LOVED my car, always wanted to drive, told me that it was freaking sick, and everytime we went out, he wanted to take the bmw. Ha, now this car will be a memory in his past

btw- he drove a 2002 F150

Bella, this place is sort of about the car, but it's more about the demographic that BMW has identified....that's why we get together here and in person! You're a cool bunch to hang with!!

NaTuReB0Y · 12-25-2005, 08:01 PM

i knew he drove a Ford......F150 or Escort...still the same!

Having met you in person....you seem like a nice and intellectual person.....
how on Earth did you end up with that LOSER!

StewtheBassman · 12-25-2005, 09:05 PM

Sometimes it takes time to see a person's true colors.

NaTuReB0Y · 12-25-2005, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by StewtheBassman

Sometimes it takes time to see a person's true colors.

so, what you're saying is...that Bella is a freak herself? lol

E90-4life · 12-25-2005, 09:49 PM

Bella,

I'm very sorry to hear this happend to you. He will most def. reap what he already sews... 100 fold. Hang in there

Dante · 12-26-2005, 02:18 AM

Hmmm, isn´t there a huge possibility that he might read all this here in this thread?

aphall · 12-26-2005, 02:48 AM

Bella, I'm sorry to hear that happened. I agree with your mom, good thing everyone is alright.

BellasBmw · 12-26-2005, 03:00 AM

How did i end up with a loser like him? Hmm.. well i was decieved. Throughout the 2 yrs, he would make little comments to brainwash me into thinking that we were bonnie and cylde, you know. And he basically saw me as his wife, and his property. But im glad i found out that hes nuts NOW, before we got married, then that would have been hell!

Nah he wouldnt know how to get into this website. He isnt computer savvy at all, actually it would make him SO mad whenever i was online, and id always ask him why.. and he'd say "cause i dont know who your talking to, or what your doing". Now that i think about it, makes alot of sense.. Control.

BMW F22 · 12-26-2005, 03:32 AM

no offense but cant really say that she shouldnt have gotten with him. Nobody really knows about the person they're dating until something big happens. It's when he's infatuated with her AND lost the sense of security that he trashed her room. I think it's cus he really liked/loved you and is afraid to lose you. Then again, he really took it too far. He lost you either way. I guess once someone is really into you he wants to be in every aspect of your life. It's a freaky thing...

JamieA · 12-26-2005, 10:06 AM

Bella, I am so sorry to hear what has happened to you. I bet you were cursing "Putana di miseria!"

I would tell the police what you know, and get a restraining order. He sounds like a psycho stalker and getting away with this could make him more daring next time.

Do you have any scary friends who could let him know that when a lady says "finito di musica" to walk away with dignity.

I am posting this after Christmas, so I hope that you salvaged what joy you could.

scottz5 · 12-26-2005, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Dante

The words of a maths teacher...

haha now i am a vice principal

scottz5 · 12-26-2005, 06:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

Hahaha.. get him back on the raft

haha

E90-4life · 12-26-2005, 06:11 PM

I say we show this guy was La Cosa Nostra is all about.

SCA · 12-26-2005, 06:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

It would make him SO mad whenever i was online, and id always ask him why.. and he'd say "cause i dont know who your talking to, or what your doing". Now that i think about it, makes alot of sense.. Control.

BINGO! My former wife was the same way.

Sadly she still attempts to be.

DriveAllDay · 12-26-2005, 07:55 PM

Very sorry to hear about your abuse ex. My deepest sympathy.

Be thankful for one thing: you get to see the real ugly side of him NOW, not 10 years later with 2 kids and a mortgage...

All the advice about telling the police is sound. Take out a restraining order against him if you need to.

I think all of us pray for your emotional recovery. Peace.

NaTuReB0Y · 12-26-2005, 08:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by scottz5

haha now i am a vice principal

you get all the dirty work....

One of my VP's is HOT!

magmd · 12-27-2005, 12:29 AM

Wow...sorry to read this Bella! He is a disgrace of a man. At least you know now...that you deserve a whole lot better. Although, you may not be able to get much on him now...due to lack of proof, it may help to put on a restraining order on him once he is "removed" from your parents property.

You have my sympathies.

nyyankee · 12-27-2005, 01:43 AM

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Originally Posted by BellasBmw

My x is from Cuba.

There you go.......my father is Cuban (didn't come over on a raft).
So I know plenty of Cubans.....they can be extremly possessive with their women (not that my father is with my mother) but I know plenty who are. He's still a scum bag though.

gilbertb11 · 12-27-2005, 02:04 AM

This may be kind of a neutral question but, is it certain that he was the culprit? If so, you might want to make sure you are diligent about reporting every incident, even those you might shrug off as little nothings. This is how a police report and "report history" is developed. This history is important to show repeat actions on the part of your x. Just some friendly advice.

BMW F22 · 12-27-2005, 03:23 AM

LOL howcome everyone thinks every immigrant came over on a raft??? we have planes you know...

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12-26-2005, 03:32 AM	#77
BMW F22 Major General 3566 Rep 9,788 Posts Drives: ///M235i Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Bay Area iTrader: (8)	no offense but cant really say that she shouldnt have gotten with him. Nobody really knows about the person they're dating until something big happens. It's when he's infatuated with her AND lost the sense of security that he trashed her room. I think it's cus he really liked/loved you and is afraid to lose you. Then again, he really took it too far. He lost you either way. I guess once someone is really into you he wants to be in every aspect of your life. It's a freaky thing...
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12-26-2005, 10:06 AM	#78
JamieA Colonel 93 Rep 2,168 Posts Drives: G01 X3 M40i Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Adelaide, Australia iTrader: (0)	Bella, I am so sorry to hear what has happened to you. I bet you were cursing "Putana di miseria!" I would tell the police what you know, and get a restraining order. He sounds like a psycho stalker and getting away with this could make him more daring next time. Do you have any scary friends who could let him know that when a lady says "finito di musica" to walk away with dignity. I am posting this after Christmas, so I hope that you salvaged what joy you could. __________________ '05 E90 325i \| '06 E90 325i \| '08 E90 325i LCI \| '13 F30 328i M-Sport \| '14 F10 535d M-Sport Current: '19 G01 X3 M40i
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12-27-2005, 03:23 AM	#88
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