Buy a M3 or a House or MOVE OUT to an APT?

[dubiousONE]

Originally Posted by AW_M3

dude..i can tell from the way you are speakin, u want the M3 right? answer honestly

I DO.. because I feel like I can get a house later.. but Im not going to lie and say I have second thoughts.. Ive always been an indecisive person, always have.. I'm trying to break the habit.. from do I need it VS do I want it..

YES I want it, NO I dont need it.. its like a mini devil on my left telling me GET IT, and a mini angel to my right telling me DONT GET IT.. ahhhhhhh... I dont want buyers remorse...

[eclipsisNA]

If you have to ask this question, you should get the house. You'll likely regret getting the M3 for one reason or another.

But, like my man 2Pac said, money over bitches. Thus, get the M3, enjoy yourself, and forget having a family. They're not worth the hassle.

[unique]

a house is the biggest liability, you can ever have. You will spend more than a third of your life trying to pay it off. this is why most americans are in debt today

[spike357]

1. Get the car. It will make you VERY happy right now.
2. Rent an apartment.
3. Get a girl you want to marry.
4. Buy the house together.

You do need to move out or number three is likely not going to happen.

[C17MooseDriver]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Cultural differences typically supercede society's judgments. The asian (..and middle eastern) families that I'm familiar with could care less what society thinks.

Not true. I come from an Asian family and I'm the first generation to grow up in the US. My parents, and their asian friends, expect their kids to go off to college, get married and have kids.

Asian parents, view their childrens' success in life as a reflection of their own. They view children still living with their parents at an older age as not being successful, irregardless of how much they're making or saving, unless it's because the parents can't take care of themselves. It looks especially bad when a 28 year old adult buys a fancy car and still lives with their parents.

[808MGuy]

Originally Posted by unique

a house is the biggest liability, you can ever have. You will spend more than a third of your life trying to pay it off. this is why most americans are in debt today

So what exactly are you trying to say? That no one should be buying houses unless they can pay cash? Morgtage debt is not exactly bad debt unless you got into one of those funky loans the banks have been offering to sub-primes.

[nullspace]

Originally Posted by C17MooseDriver

Not true. I come from an Asian family and I'm the first generation to grow up in the US. My parents, and their asian friends, expect their kids to go off to college, get married and have kids.

Asian parents, view their childrens' success in life as a reflection of their own. They view children still living with their parents at an older age as not being successful, irregardless of how much they're making or saving, unless it's because the parents can't take care of themselves. It looks especially bad when a 28 year old adult buys a fancy car and still lives with their parents.

I think we're clear that living with your parents is not the right choice for you. It might be right for the OP though, so let's just respect that and move on.

[808MGuy]

Originally Posted by C17MooseDriver

Not true. I come from an Asian family and I'm the first generation to grow up in the US. My parents, and their asian friends, expect their kids to go off to college, get married and have kids.

Asian parents, view their childrens' success in life as a reflection of their own. They view children still living with their parents at an older age as not being successful, irregardless of how much they're making or saving, unless it's because the parents can't take care of themselves. It looks especially bad when a 28 year old adult buys a fancy car and still lives with their parents.

Alright, I'm convinced that this must be something about Hawaiian culture rather than Asian culture then. You don't really here the story of kids turning 18 and getting booted from the house here but it seems common on the mainland. Leaving before 18 is just unheard of unless you're a royal screw up that got kicked out.

[C17MooseDriver]

Originally Posted by nullspace

I think we're clear that living with your parents is not the right choice for you. It might be right for the OP though, so let's just respect that and move on.

Good point...........

[nullspace]

Originally Posted by C17MooseDriver

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I'm merely trying to get it back on course - didn't mean to offend.

[dubiousONE]

Originally Posted by HIS4

Alright, I'm convinced that this must be something about Hawaiian culture rather than Asian culture then. You don't really here the story of kids turning 18 and getting booted from the house here but it seems common on the mainland. Leaving before 18 is just unheard of unless you're a royal screw up that got kicked out.

My parents are not trying to boot me out. They are very supportive and if I choose to move out which I have in the past they will support me... I am simply saving up for the future.. instead of wasting it on something like renting an apartment.. and if a girl should not want to be with me because I'm smart about staying home to generate savings for our future.. she is not worth being with..

[C17MooseDriver]

Originally Posted by nullspace

I think we're clear that living with your parents is not the right choice for you. It might be right for the OP though, so let's just respect that and move on.

Originally Posted by nullspace

I'm merely trying to get it back on course - didn't mean to offend.

Sorry, my bad. Changed my previous post.

[dubiousONE]

Originally Posted by C17MooseDriver

Sorry, my bad. Changed my previous post.

I mean.. REAL TALK.. how many of you who own M3's still live with their parents regardless of by choice or not? HONESTLY! Lets hear them.. I simply can not be the only one here... that would be in that situation..

[2008bimmerM3]

keep living with your parents, its all good

eventually when your parents get older approximately around their 60's you'll have to move back and live with them anyways, unless u want them to end in a depressingly crappy lifestyle at a retirement home.

imagine how much money you will save from now until they are 60 if you keep living at home. plus, they could use the help in the mortgage payments, ask them to add your name to the house

[Mr. 5]

It's a no brainer. Especially these days.
Get a house!

I saw the market starting to rise so I sold my 38k 330 and drove a 14k Mazda protege. I did this 3 years while I got used to the payments. I went from a 700 payment to a 200 payment.
I bought an e46 M3 afterwards.
Buy now and get a house for cheap. Then watch it go up in price the next 4 years. Then purchase an M3.

[dubiousONE]

Originally Posted by 2008bimmerM3

keep living with your parents, its all good

eventually when your parents get older approximately around their 60's you'll have to move back and live with them anyways, unless u want them to end in a depressingly crappy lifestyle at a retirement home.

imagine how much money you will save from now until they are 60 if you keep living at home. plus, they could use the help in the mortgage payments, ask them to add your name to the house

My name is already on the house. Currently as it is I own the house. Not my parents, even though they pay the mortgage as well. They have set me and my siblings up for the future already.

And you're absolutely right, when they get old, they will definitely be living with me or anyone of my siblings, and not at no retirement home...

Obviously I DO NOT plan on living with my parents until they turn 60. I have my own life to live and start my own family should the cards be in my favor and I happen to find the right one..

[McLuVan]

Originally Posted by Laszlo

A house first... car second.

yeaup
that's if you can get a loan

[tightie]

go for the house.. fuck the car, anything will get you from a to b.. a 335 will even do the trick...

[nullspace]

Originally Posted by dubiousONE

I mean.. REAL TALK.. how many of you who own M3's still live with their parents regardless of by choice or not? HONESTLY! Lets hear them.. I simply can not be the only one here... that would be in that situation..

I think the real question you're facing might be the same one I ask myself: "Can I really justify spending this much on a car?" Let's face it, there are much better things you could do with your money. Move out of your parents' place? Save more? Just because we have the money doesn't mean we should spend it. You need to decide for yourself if throwing away this much money is worth it.

Be honest about your motivations and really think about what you're giving up to have the car. You might be able to retire earlier without it. You might lose your job and be stuck with a big payment. But I wouldn't worry about what anyone thinks of you or your car. Pleasing other people, except those close to you, doesn't tend to make you happy - at least in my experience.

[kronzprinz]

Originally Posted by dubiousONE

My name is already on the house. Currently as it is I own the house. Not my parents, even though they pay the mortgage as well. They have set me and my siblings up for the future already.

And you're absolutely right, when they get old, they will definitely be living with me or anyone of my siblings, and not at no retirement home...

Obviously I DO NOT plan on living with my parents until they turn 60. I have my own life to live and start my own family should the cards be in my favor and I happen to find the right one..

I think you just answered your own question...

[flyinggonzo]

I would not be buying a M3 on a $80k salary, but it's your money.

[op487062]

Originally Posted by flyinggonzo

I would not be buying a M3 on a $80k salary, but it's your money.

i agree. just because you can PAY for something, doesn't mean you can AFFORD it. this kind of thinking has gotten me into trouble in the past...

you're 28, make $80k, and have $100k saved--you're pretty good at planning. why lose a big chunk that gains about 4-8per cent/year to something that loses about 20% (if what i've read is correct) per year? it goes against what you've planned for.

buy a house if you like it, not because of the possible investment (real estate typically gains about 3-5% annually, other than tax deductions, it isn't a real investment imo).

$80,000 = +/- $7000/month salary
$7000 - (33% state/fed/fica taxes) - (10% retirement) = $ 4500
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$ 4500/mo -- this is before contributing to your decent savings acct and paying for living expenses, not to mention the mortgage and stuff. if you have about $1000 left over to cover the cost of the m3, do it.

i'd follow what a lot of people have said...get out of your parents house. independence is priceless--i'm asian, too, so i completely understand your thinking i'm in a similar income situation as you. i DESPERATELY want an m3 with their price drops/financing but i'm still driving my '02 tl pos because it's paid for

whatever you decide, good luck