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I totally understand what he is saying and totally disagree. The person that cheats is untrustworthy even if they don't get caught. That's like saying that it is okay to rob banks as long as you don't get caught. I don't buy that thinking. My wife deserves my faithfulness.
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marriage in a nut shell is the good out weighs the crazy. slim margin but that's life. shes just enough bat shit crazy to put up with your dumb shit.
Find a partner, an equal, who pushes you to be your best (and sometimes brings out your worst) cheating like lying is built on a weak foundation and will only compound and be doomed from the get go. If you still lust for other woman marriage should be put on hold. get all your gang bangs out in college. like similar hobbies, vacation, cars , the beach, whatever floats your boat. and if your partner is a wet blanket....wont work. does my wife really car about an M3? no not really but she rather drive that car then have a regular sedan and appreciates that its special. I knew right away that this could be my partner in life and she had the quaLITIES THAT are important to me for my happiness.
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I am very capable of thinking outside the box. I just don't agree with your philosophy of marriage. It is way off of what I believe.
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I have to agree with your thinking on basic levels. monogamy is a society norm. but i do believe lying and manipulation undermine a healthy relationship.
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I was simply adding another perspective for a youngster who will mostly be hearing "if you even consider any other females, then there is something wrong with you and your marriage." There's hope for the best of both worlds OP. Companionship and freedom. |
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Peddling around your wife's phone number is not germane to the subject. Also is your wife the type who would be interested in getting porked after dinner with an Internet stranger? That must be stressful for you, knowing the powder keg you're hitched with. |
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The point is that you have no control over what people do on their own time. You have to trust your spouse to make wise decisions and be a good companion to you. If you feel the only thing separating your wife from giant black dicks is a promise you made to each other in your early life, then I've got bad news. At some point she's going to find those black dicks, and she's going to take them. Like a champ. Don't be a control freak, it will drive you crazy. |
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Apparently you are a hypocrite. That's okay. You might want to rethink your philosophy. You keep turning it back to me and my wife. The reality is you cheat on your spouse, you think its wrong, and try and hope you never get caught while you think it in some way makes your marriage special and stronger? Just, when I point out what if the coin was flipped and it was her, you admit you wouldn't like it.
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Edit: You seem to say in other replies, that in this scenario a) both people are free to do it and b) it is agreed and understood up front. In that case, I don't judge others for making that choice. I think it is weird that it is a "don't ask, don't tell situation". That part makes me question other fundamentals in the relationship in terms of honesty and trust. But if both parties agree, then I do think there is a braoad spectrum of what people hold important and monogamy is one of those things that matters to some and not to others. Honesty and trust, though, are pretty universal.
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Sounds legit. Marriages fail for lots of reasons. Being faithful to one another is seldom a reason for it. Call me crazy but i believe that part of being a stand up human is obtaining the ability to control one's sexual urges. If you can't do that, what can you control in your life? Just because the ability is there doesn't mean it's right or even ok. The baby batter is strong and once it's out of your system your ability to think clearly is again restored. Your hungry troll does have a point. If two people want to build a life together and do so with the ability to bang other people, more power to them. But that's not an answer to 50% failed marriages. He also has a point about men and women typically having different needs. Typically women end up having sex due to an emotional connection. And he's right about most wives not wandering the mall eyeballing men's packages. But there is a flip side to his actions of banging one nighter in Dallas on that business trip. A tangible negative even and thats the fact that it's very likely the women in Dallas who became a cum dumpster for trolltastic stud engaged sexually with him due to an emotional connection. She will eventually, at some point, realize she was in fact just another convenient place for papa troll unload his penis. This is one of the reasons so many women think men are pigs. They lie and say anything to get them to spread their legs and once the pop one off, the dude is gone in a flash. Maybe that's why there are 50% failed marriage. Because women being used by guys in this manner become damaged emotionally and never fully trust the guy they end up marrying. There are consequences for everything we do, even if they aren't felt by us, even if they aren't apparent in or just after the moment. The consequences exist and they vary by situation and by the people involved. BTW, i haven't known many couples with "we can fuck who ever we want" relationships, but the 3 i do know of all ended in divorce. Ugly, fucked up, reputation smearing, kids dragged into love/hate triangles, divorced. I'm sure some successful ones exist, but i'd wager they are the exception to the rule. Not everyone is just looking for a "hole".
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1st off if your thinking about infidelity for yourself or worried about it with your partner......listen loud and clear.....don't do it! Listen shit happens down the road that could possibly lead someone astray but that shit only becomes a viable option when shit at home ain't good! So if there's even a remote worry about that, someone isn't serious about their future together. Next,,,,you get married to build a family and have kids.....otherwise keep your dick on a lease to buy program. If you guys aren't going to share a human being well then your just looking to sign exclusivity deals on the private parts. Kids are a joined hobby that should keep you both busy until they've emptied your wallets and they have to deal with this very same perplexing question your now dealing with! Just my 2 cents! Madly in love and every time you park it you look back because you know you made the right decision!- your significant other should make you feel the same!
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