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01-19-2012, 06:17 PM | #67 |
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So how many of you have shown this thread to your sig. other and said,
"See, honey. I'm not the only one"
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01-19-2012, 06:22 PM | #69 | |
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The highlighted point pretty much some it up......... I am married and pretty much do what I want with my disposable income and my wife does the same with hers. The key is we trust each other and know we wont spend beyond our means and doing anything stupid that would hurt us financially. As it has already been said its about thresholds and give and take. |
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01-19-2012, 06:47 PM | #70 | |
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On the other hand, if you just spend recklessly, that is another issue. You probably aren't ready for marriage. Like everything in life, marriage has its pros and its cons. You will never have one without the other. IMO, if you need a pre-nup, you don't have a strong enough bond to get married. It will limit the depth of the bond you will be able to achieve with your spouse. You have known people who got it wrong so take your time to find the right person. If you never do, DON'T SETTLE FOR JUST ANYONE just to have a warm body in your bed. (actually, if you don't get married, you can have many warm bodies in your bed !!!) Here's a test. When you meet the right woman, it won't matter to you if she wants you to curtail your car habit to a degree. It will be worth the sacrifice. And therein lies the key to finding the right person. How much are they willing to sacrifice to be with you? This goes both ways of course. How much are you willing to sacrifice to be with the other person? Some people are never really ready for marriage.
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01-19-2012, 07:01 PM | #71 |
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Mines fine with it all as long as I spread out the purchases about every 6 months so it keeps the car feeling new. If I did them all at once there would be no stopping me wanting the next upgrade. When we met I had an E60 M5 with a Dinan exhaust and Stage 2 suspension and she's already commented on how we should probably do that to the M3 as it really did sound awesome. I just slowly share with her my research until it's time and then she understasnd why a full exhaust is a better upgrade than just a slip-on...
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^^^.. always my counter argument... it works 3/4 of the time.. I'll take it...
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This is the thread of the week......oh wait.......no, the to couch or not is the best thread of the week......this is a close second. A few people have nailed it.....it's all about give and take. The disposable income is the key.......you gotta have a few accounts in the house. Mine, hers, and ours (household stuff). Once the ours is funded....(that's monthly expenses and savings), then you have the disposable. The key to staying alive is don't spend your disposable and then tap into the ours. That will get sh*t started in my camp......on both side. This approach has served me well........check my signature .........Phil
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01-19-2012, 07:13 PM | #74 |
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mine doesn't mind it when i mod. i mod her car and mine as well...i haven't gotten around to the M (it's more her car than mine), but the only times she's protested is when she wanted to use the discretionary funds for something else.
however, she does not like it when i drive fast, or even corner hard. that's probably the most frustrating part concerning me, her and cars. oh well, no one's perfect it's much easier for a woman who wants to mod her M3 to get what she wants from her husband...the threat of withholding sex always works nicely |
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01-19-2012, 07:21 PM | #75 | |
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On the other hand, if you want a hottie for a trophy wife, that isn't a good marriage, and you likely should get a pre-nup. I have an acquaintance that is extremely wealthy. He is on his fourth marriage. He gets a pre-nup every time. He will openly acknowledge that women marry him for money and/or security. He is okay with that because he is marrying for sex and companionship. It is a business deal and it works for him. For me, I could could never live that way. Biggest issue, I think, is people don't talk enough about how they see their roles after marriage. It's all fine before hand when it's just about sex and having fun together while the "business" aspect of your lives are still separate. This is where rationality plays a part. If you expect your spouse to earn, and she wants to be a housewife, you will have a problem. These kind of things really need to be thought about before you swap rings.
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OMG YOUR AVATAR!!!! Full OF win!
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01-19-2012, 08:33 PM | #78 |
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Great thread.
I got lucky. I'm in my late 30's and have been accumulating cars for several years. My soon to be wife's entire family is into racing so she grew up at the track. When we started dating she came to my races (Chumpcar and Lemons) and was right at home. She drove my Elise and I bought her an FJ so she can mod it. Works pretty well although she's said "NO PARTS!" until the wedding in March. Well I just ordered some KW springs from IND but she won't be here when they arrive and I doubt she'll notice the drop. So long as the wedding and honeymoon are paid for it's no big deal. Her background goes a long way since she "gets it" |
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I've been lucky. When I told my first wife I wanted to dump about $10k into my 1990 Taurus SHO with 160k miles on it, she suggested I dump $10k into my race car. Even so, I had to let her go. My soon to be second wife, doesn't like the M3 because it's a manual, but liked to drive the earlier DCT car when I had that. Her fav was the RS6 with 500 or so hp. She keeps urging me on to get either an S8 or Panamera. She helps me brew beer, encourages me to spend time at the track and has a better sex drive than a pornstar. Eat your hearts out.
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Guys who are not married do not understand as you have only yourself to answer to. For all you single guys, image sharing your finances with your parents and doing something without consulting them, see what would happen then when you drop $$$$ on and Akropovic exhaust or HRE wheels.... Im not saying being married is like being with your parents, I'm simply trying to give a hypothetical situation or analogy.
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like everything else, it's all about how much you spend vs. how much you make...
i make 90% of our household income for now (fiancee is a student), she bitches a little bit when i buy mods for the car, but not to the point that she will really give me shit... as long as the mortgage is paid (and some), taxes, food, credit cards, helping family, then i'm good and when i giggle like a 16-y-o girl at a Justin Bieber's concert while flooring it and listening to my exhaust / intake, she looks at me and thinks i'm a little retarded i just tell her "boys will be boys, just the toys get bigger!" she knows i'm a car nut... she likes fancy houses... to each his/her own |
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As long as I keep my wife's 335xi running smoothly, I can do whatever I want!
God, I hope she doesn't read this!!
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OP, back to your original question... your wife won't notice a Dinan Stage 1 suspension. 99% of 3 series drivers wouldn't either. But you sure will!
Sharing spending and money with our significant others is totally dependent on everyone's individual financial and personal situation. Everyone has their own strategy that works (and lots that don't work!). Hopefully your wife is understanding of your passion for cars and M cars. Good luck!
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haha! wow...that's why I'm still single. I'll get married when I buy all my toys.
yeah, as long as the mods are not cosmetic, you can get away with them. |
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I've learned to just say, "if I have to explain this to you, you'll never understand" I've only known two women that love hot cars and are all for it. One is a good friend (co-worker) the other I made love to her on the hood of my M3 and she was all about it. My ex-wife? A damn selfish bitch that thought a car is only a means to get from point A to point B.
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