this girl is confusing me....need advice

[ejazbmw]

well i don't come on here for girl advice but this chick is confusing the hell out of me. Anyway i've been taking this night class it has about errrr 7 kids lol 6 guys 1 girl and for the first few classes this girl sat allllllll the way at the other end i mean this class is a lecture hall probably for 200+kids, and then one night she took my seat at first i was like "what the hell I've been sitting there for 3 weeks" (I'm not the nicest person at 8pm) anyway she looked at me and said your going to have to take a seat next to me. So she started to talk to me about the class and how we hated it mostly.

soo fast forward a few weeks and we've been talking on a regular basis i don't have her number but we always see each other on campus, we had lunch a few times nothing serious. My friends all tell me to ask her out on a date but i think shes out of my league lol I mean I'm not ugly but this chick is about 8ish maybe 9 I mean shes from Brazil .

Alright to the part that confuses me i thought this chick started to like me since i always made her laugh and we had a good time but all the sudden she starts talking about her ex-boyfriend and how he won't leave her alone, and now all she talks about is this kid i kind of just sit and listen to the voice in my head thats saying "why do i always get the obsessed girls"

anyway what do you guys think i should do? this actually happened to me before and i cut the chick off she wanted to be friends but i just stopped talking to her lol i don't want to do that to this girl since we get along so well....i don't know maybe she just wants to be friends? but the hints she gives me seem like she likes me

[EZ_TUR90]

tell her to forget about her bf, and ask her out!

[ejazbmw]

thats what everyone tells me....but supposable they went out for almost two years i don't know how to tell her to forget about him lol

[ejazbmw]

oh and i usually don't have trouble asking girls out but for some reason i can't bring out of me to say it

[MMMazing07]

if you had not seen my girl advice thread it was kinda of similar to yours. heres my advice. if she keeps mentioning her ex BF that means she is trying to get over him. just LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN. girls love it when you listen to them. try to find out her position on the whole dating thing. see if she was heart broken or she broke it off. if she continues start talking about other girls you have dated and see how she reacts. take her out on a date. like real date. night time. by that time she will have seen your car. i think you can take care of the rest

[EZ_TUR90]

first thing you should do is get her number! if you want to ask her out just walk her to her car after class.

[Japanese_Racer]

Tell her you have a BMW and to drop the zero and get with the hero.

Ask her out. Whats the worst that can happen?

[MMMazing07]

i have trouble asking girls out too. make it a casual thing. its easier. like "o yeah im was gonna see a movie with my friend tonight but he bailed on me........you wanna come"

[Rick]

Warning: Prepare yourself for the onslaught of members accusing you of being ghey!

WTF, hook up with her, can't you take a hint? She's just trying to make you jealous. Walk tall! Have some confidence and ask her if she wants to go out for dinner and drinks and see how it goes.. if it goes well... give her a nice kiss at the end of the night and that's all. Play hard to get, keep her interested, make up stories about dates you've been on with Penthouse Centerfolds, be creative... It's all about presentation, marketing, and hype. Make yourself seem bigger than you are. It's all just a game!

[Year's_End]

Originally Posted by MMMazing07

i have trouble asking girls out too. make it a casual thing. its easier. like "o yeah im was gonna see a movie with my friend tonight but he bailed on me........you wanna come"

good line

[ejazbmw]

Originally Posted by MMMazing07

if you had not seen my girl advice thread it was kinda of similar to yours. heres my advice. if she keeps mentioning her ex BF that means she is trying to get over him. just LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN. girls love it when you listen to them. try to find out her position on the whole dating thing. see if she was heart broken or she broke it off. if she continues start talking about other girls you have dated and see how she reacts. take her out on a date. like real date. night time. by that time she will have seen your car. i think you can take care of the rest

hmm that sounds pretty good in fact i just listen but i don't listen you know what i mean? lol

and she has seen my car i guess she was impressed but she drives a audi A4 so she always says her car is better haha

Originally Posted by EZ_TUR90

first thing you should do is get her number! if you want to ask her out just walk her to her car after class.

thats what i was going to do I guess I'll have to wait for the right moment

Originally Posted by Japanese_Racer

Tell her you have a BMW and to drop the zero and get with the hero.

Ask her out. Whats the worst that can happen?

i like that zero to hero line i hate getting rejected since I've never been rejected i don't wanna know how it feels hahaha

Originally Posted by rickc

Warning: Prepare yourself for the onslaught of members accusing you of being ghey!

WTF, hook up with her, can't you take a hint? She's just trying to make you jealous. Walk tall! Have some confidence and ask her if she wants to go out for dinner and drinks and see how it goes.. it it goes well give her a nice kiss at the end of the night and that's all. Play hard to get, keep her interested, make up stories about dates you've been on with Penthouse Centerfolds, be creative... It's all about presentation, marketing, and hype. Make yourself seem bigger than you are. It's all just a game!

lol i like your advice and lately i have been kinda ignoring her like i'll just nod my head when i answer her, I'm def gonna use your advice it sounds like it'll work i'll let you know i guess

[aut0sh0cker]

Originally Posted by rickc

It's all about presentation, marketing, and hype. Make yourself seem bigger than you are. It's all just a game!

He's asking a chick out, not selling cars...

[ejazbmw]

Originally Posted by aut0sh0cker

He's asking a chick out, not selling cars...

but it seems like it'll work until she realizes it's all a lie hahha

[Rick]

Originally Posted by aut0sh0cker

He's asking a chick out, not selling cars...

So.. ask her out, stop wasting time and if she says NO... move on to the next girl. Simple.

...if he sits there and listens to all her stories, nods his head, and comforts her then he's setting himself up for the "friend zone," I don't think that's what he wants...

Obviously everything she has mentioned about her ex has affected his views about her to the point he is doubting even asking her out because he thinks she still might be into her ex, right? Well, he should play that game too.

[ejazbmw]

Originally Posted by MMMazing07

i have trouble asking girls out too. make it a casual thing. its easier. like "o yeah im was gonna see a movie with my friend tonight but he bailed on me........you wanna come"

this seems like a good line the only problem is i hate taking girls on dates to the movies you can't really talk, i don't know i guess its a good idea to break the ice but were already comfortable with each other

[ejazbmw]

Originally Posted by rickc

So.. ask her out, stop wasting time and if she says NO... move on to the next girl. Simple.

...if he sits there and listens to all her stories, nods his head, and comforts her then he's setting himself up for the "friend zone," I don't think that's what he wants...

Obviously everything she has mentioned about her ex has affected his views about her to the point he is doubting even asking her out because he thinks she still might be into her ex, right? Well, he should play that game too.

thats EXACTLY what i don't want this to turn out to be a friend kinda thing i wanna take this to the next level i just gotta build up the confidence now

[MMMazing07]

Originally Posted by ejazbmw

this seems like a good line the only problem is i hate taking girls on dates to the movies you can't really talk, i don't know i guess its a good idea to break the ice but were already comfortable with each other

i mean dinner and a movie. its mostly the in between parts when the most talking occurs. dinner.....walking to movie......getting tickets......sitting in the theatre

about getting her number. i do this a lot in school. make it school related then let it change into a friendship then text flirt then "come over late night"

ask her number if you forget to take notes or missed some questions. or miss a class and ask her if she can show everything you missed the next day. you need her number right to contact her.

[SDTopless]

tell her she needs to stop talking bout her ex n go out sometime w/ you

[darkphantom]

dude, it doesn't matter if the chick is a 8 or a 9, it only matters if she's a 10....and those are almost never there.....

In all seriousness though, like the guys said, listen to her, women love to vent especially to those that are good listeners.

p.s. don't let her looks intimidate you, if you show her you're intimidated, she may take advantage of you and just "use" you....but if you show her that you're her equal and be a man (i.e. ask her out) you'll be ok...

and the whole 2 years thing - it's done with and over, she just needs an excuse to get with you!

[kevinbahnz]

DOod. first of all , this chick likes you. she made the first move and a few weeks later you still havent done anything. She's testing you out by talking about other guys. to see if you're interested or not.You maybe too late because you might be well into the friends stage. She gave you a few weeks and you've done nothing but listen to her talk about other guys. She probably thinks you're ghey. Fuck it, just ask her out to a bar and get drunk and have wild sex. What do you got to lose, you never get turned down. right

[uabimmer]

Originally Posted by rickc

Warning: Prepare yourself for the onslaught of members accusing you of being ghey!

WTF, hook up with her, can't you take a hint? She's just trying to make you jealous. Walk tall! Have some confidence and ask her if she wants to go out for dinner and drinks and see how it goes.. if it goes well... give her a nice kiss at the end of the night and that's all. Play hard to get, keep her interested, make up stories about dates you've been on with Penthouse Centerfolds, be creative... It's all about presentation, marketing, and hype. Make yourself seem bigger than you are. It's all just a game!

What? are you kidding me? I really have to disagree with you on this one bro, the last thing you wanna do is make up a bunch of stories that eventually you yourself will get caught up in...hahaha

to the OP, i wouldnt treat it like a game, but there are those that argue.... anyways just make a casual date with some dinner or something and next time just step it up one level, ect.

just dont make it seem like its a huge deal and you should be fine.... btw good luck

[Rick]

^^^ ok that was an exaggeration but the point i was trying to make is for him to not act like a pussy when she's talking about her ex-bf and to level the playing field. he sounds young so the bottom-line advice from me was to "just have fun."