Came home and wife was in our bedroom with another man

[BoxerGT2.5]

Pics????? Just sayin

[graider]

Originally Posted by Bavarian III

Wtf? Why didn't you bang on the fucking door? This story is pretty shameful, to me.

+1. why left and now wondering if she did it or not?

but based on what your described, she cheated on you. move on since your dautghter is only 4.

[silvergray545]

Get custody of your daughter. Raise her the right way. Not to be a whore like her mother.

I honestly feel bad for you. After 17 long years of being with her, she goes and fucks everything up. It shows how much you meant to her.

[DougLikesBMW]

Please for the love of god OP make sure that you kick that cunt out of the house, keep everything, do not give her half since she betrayed the marriage (she can take what's hers, but that's it), also make sure you are in sole custody of your daughter, and lastly make that cunt pay you child support.

Divorce her and if the court tries to do anything other than this then you must raise hell.

[CollinsE90]

Originally Posted by DougLikesBMW

Please for the love of god OP make sure that you kick that cunt out of the house, keep everything, do not give her half since she betrayed the marriage (she can take what's hers, but that's it), also make sure you are in sole custody of your daughter, and lastly make that cunt pay you child support.

Divorce her and if the court tries to do anything other than this then you must raise hell.

+1 but you need evidence, video or pics...hire a private investigator

[Peanuto]

Originally Posted by CollinsE90

+1 but you need evidence, video or pics...hire a private investigator

Like me

[DougLikesBMW]

Originally Posted by CollinsE90

+1 but you need evidence, video or pics...hire a private investigator

Just get one of these OP - spy pen: http://www.dealextreme.com/details.dx/sku.18087

*EDIT* On second thought, that site takes 1-2 weeks to ship, so maybe not lol

[ragingclue]

Take a bite out of her.

And doing what's best for your daughter would be to get her out of the situation where she's being raised by a whore of a mother, and watching a doomed-to-fail marriage.

[CollinsE90]

Originally Posted by DougLikesBMW

Just get one of these OP - spy pen: http://www.dealextreme.com/details.dx/sku.18087

*EDIT* On second thought, that site takes 1-2 weeks to ship, so maybe not lol

i would hire PI so i have proper proof(pics etc...) get her going around town, maybe even his place so you can prove its the priest etc...

[ideliver]

Originally Posted by Spec 1

My plan of attack: Move back into your house and kick her out. Decide what you're going to do for you and your daughters sake. Remember she's already proven herself as a lier so I don't know how I'd be able to trust her again. Personally would file for divorce and custody, but that's your choice in the end.

very good advice...

I am Catholic and last year a classmate revealed that he was sexually abused by our priest during grade school 30 yrs ago...we all knew he a "queer" at the time...now I know he was a rapist too...

I have had enough of these fuckers...

[shuarma]

what a bitch. even if nothing did happen, if you never came home something WOULD have happened...which (from my perspective) is equal to something actually happening

[.:bHd:.]

So you waited downstairs while you thought your wife was getting banged by another dude up stairs? Damn man I woulda had a heart attack or something.

[Labrada_Exoticz]

Originally Posted by .:bHd:.

So you waited downstairs while you thought your wife was getting banged by another dude up stairs? Damn man I woulda had a heart attack or something.

+1... It sucks that this happened to you but you should've broke down that door. Now because you didn't go in to see what was going on, your here asking for other peoples opinion. Deep down you know exactly what was going on in that room, you just don't want to believe it. Again your left w/ these questions just because you decided to sit in the kitchen and wait for the priest to finish with your wife instead of going in the room and beating his ass.

[BTM]

Assaulting either party would not in any way would have helped the OP. He kept his cool, and is basing the decision on actually thinking it through and weighing options. To me it sounds like he will divorce this bitch, and to me it sounds like this is correct. Had he assaulted either party, his legal case would've been damaged, he would some more bullshit to deal with, and made a complicated process even more complicated. I commend OP for keeping his cool, he knew what was going on, he didn't have to "see it to believe it" and he waited because he was weighing his options, and decided against force, which within today's structure of the justice system favors him

[Labrada_Exoticz]

Originally Posted by BTM

Assaulting either party would not in any way would have helped the OP. He kept his cool, and is basing the decision on actually thinking it through and weighing options. To me it sounds like he will divorce this bitch, and to me it sounds like this is correct. Had he assaulted either party, his legal case would've been damaged, he would some more bullshit to deal with, and made a complicated process even more complicated. I commend OP for keeping his cool, he knew what was going on, he didn't have to "see it to believe it" and he waited because he was weighing his options, and decided against force, which within today's structure of the justice system favors him

Yeah I guess your right, it would be better legally for him not to assault the priest. Apparently though he did need to "see it to believe it" since he's here asking if he should believe his wife's story or not. Hopefully he does go through w/ the divorce.
If he ends up deciding on staying w/ her, he will never get passed what happened and it will always bother him because of her denial and how he knows it's BS. IMO, divorce is the only option!

[BTM]

Well to me it seems obvious what happened, and he knew it to begin with, just looking for maybe a perspective he couldn't see, and considering it's a marriage I don't blame him. Deep down, knowing what he knew, the history, all the little clues, there's nothing that'll overcome the doubt in your mind. Divorce, move on, fuck up the priest's reputation (legally), and in the end he becomes the "winner" so to speak

[sfcu]

Originally Posted by BTM

Well to me it seems obvious what happened, and he knew it to begin with, just looking for maybe a perspective he couldn't see, and considering it's a marriage I don't blame him. Deep down, knowing what he knew, the history, all the little clues, there's nothing that'll overcome the doubt in your mind. Divorce, move on, fuck up the priest's reputation (legally), and in the end he becomes the "winner" so to speak

Actually, there is no doubt in my mind "what" happened. With all these opinions from people that don't know me and are unbiased, this just reinforces my divorce plans. It's pretty clear and evident that noone is seeing her innocent side of the story based on the stated facts... I wonder why. Nobody is that innocent until proven guilty. Man, I appreciate everyones' points-of-views and comments.

[BTM]

Exactly man. Once again, avoiding use of force/assault was the best decision you could've made being in this position. Unfortunately, she's still innocent until proven guilty, but given the history of the situation you shouldn't have much of a problem...

Just a random thought...is your wife the only one this guy is "friendly" with? Maybe something to look into...obviously just speculation

[Verbiage]

So, OP, what are you going to do?

[shuarma]

1. get cheated on
2. make a thread on e90post
3. ??????
4. $$$ profit

[Sephiroth]

Originally Posted by sfcu

Actually, there is no doubt in my mind "what" happened. With all these opinions from people that don't know me and are unbiased, this just reinforces my divorce plans. It's pretty clear and evident that noone is seeing her innocent side of the story based on the stated facts... I wonder why. Nobody is that innocent until proven guilty. Man, I appreciate everyones' points-of-views and comments.

You will pull through this so hang in there. Good luck.

[ukthunderace]

sfcu,
Are you in the military? I noticed you said you had arrived back early from "training" which is why is ask. If you are, try to get orders overseas. Get over there, do an early return of dependents for your wife, and file for divorce over there. Much better than here as there is no chance for her going for your retirement. Find hot German/Italian chick and never look back.
If you are not military, go back to the house and kick her ass out. Cancel your credit cards first though...transfer all your money to a new account in your name only. She can make life hell for you by ruining your credit.