Came home and wife was in our bedroom with another man

[BoxerGT2.5]

A topless priest is in your house with your wife in your bedroom with the door locked, cleaning? Who wouldn't believe her.

[Blake]

my 2 cents...i would have left the house and immediately went straight to my lawyer's office and started getting the papers drawn up. then, next time i see her, drop that in her lap. if she freaks out then you just say "you're the one swallowing the holy sausage. do the crime, now it's time to do the time."

Originally Posted by sfcu

The guy's shoes were the first thing I saw when I opened the door to the garage. His keys, wallet, cell phone, everything was there on the kitchen counter and his shirt on the breakfast chair. He was there in the bedroom. The wife did not/could not deny that. I dated my wife for 9 years before we got married. We've been married 8 years now, so I thought I knew her after 17 years. Everything went downhill after she met this priest. I had multiple talks with her and thought I laid down the law, but she was continuing to communicate with him behind my back. I think 99.99% of me is to divorce her, the .01% is that we have a 4-year old daughter in this mess. If it wasn't for my daughter, this shit would have been done and over. Marriage is easy, kids are a different story. I'm not worried about child support since as a man, I have to be a father and take care of my child. I trust NOONE now, just my parents and my daughter!!!

i get what you're saying about your daughter, but you can argue that she's an unfit mother because of her adulteress ways. get custody of your child and fuck that ho. no one really wants their child to grow up in a home where the mother is fucking any priest that gives her some holy communion anyway. just start being super dad and win over the heart of your daughter and tell mom to hit the road.

with all the problems the catholic church has been having, contacting the vatican might be an effective tool to drive that asshole out of town.

[BillLee]

i feel really sorry for you man. its gonna be tough to trust anyone now. i would hate if my girlfriend did something like this to me.

[elm3]

Originally Posted by sfcu

The guy's shoes were the first thing I saw when I opened the door to the garage. His keys, wallet, cell phone, everything was there on the kitchen counter and his shirt on the breakfast chair. He was there in the bedroom. The wife did not/could not deny that. I dated my wife for 9 years before we got married. We've been married 8 years now, so I thought I knew her after 17 years. Everything went downhill after she met this priest. I had multiple talks with her and thought I laid down the law, but she was continuing to communicate with him behind my back. I think 99.99% of me is to divorce her, the .01% is that we have a 4-year old daughter in this mess. If it wasn't for my daughter, this shit would have been done and over. Marriage is easy, kids are a different story. I'm not worried about child support since as a man, I have to be a father and take care of my child. I trust NOONE now, just my parents and my daughter!!!

You should not be the one paying child support. That pisses me off to no end. She should be the one and you should be able to keep the house and everything that is yours. Just like women do, take her ass to the cleaners. Then throw her ass to the curve. And I'm with you, I don't trust anybody but me. Sorry that you are going through all of this. Hope that you can find a way of getting things taken care off and that you and your daughter can pick up the pieces and move on.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by sfcu

The guy's shoes were the first thing I saw when I opened the door to the garage. His keys, wallet, cell phone, everything was there on the kitchen counter and his shirt on the breakfast chair. He was there in the bedroom. The wife did not/could not deny that. I dated my wife for 9 years before we got married. We've been married 8 years now, so I thought I knew her after 17 years. Everything went downhill after she met this priest. I had multiple talks with her and thought I laid down the law, but she was continuing to communicate with him behind my back. I think 99.99% of me is to divorce her, the .01% is that we have a 4-year old daughter in this mess. If it wasn't for my daughter, this shit would have been done and over. Marriage is easy, kids are a different story. I'm not worried about child support since as a man, I have to be a father and take care of my child. I trust NOONE now, just my parents and my daughter!!!

Shoes + shirt = bad signs. Claim your daughter man. A lying woman is no good in any situation, for anything.

[san~man]

Your 4 year old is no reason to stay in a bad marriage. She's young enough to rebound from the strain of divorce, and it's better to get it done when she's younger rather than when she's older.

[TurboFan]

Originally Posted by alpha325i

You guys are a bunch of pusses. I would have busted the door down instantly to find out what exactly was going on so that she coulnd't deny it, then I would have opened up a can of whoop ass and pistol whipped that mother fucker (or wife fucker...whatever).

oooooh eThug!

[Couch]

Originally Posted by elm3

You should not be the one paying child support. That pisses me off to no end. She should be the one and you should be able to keep the house and everything that is yours. Just like women do, take her ass to the cleaners. Then throw her ass to the curve. And I'm with you, I don't trust anybody but me. Sorry that you are going through all of this. Hope that you can find a way of getting things taken care off and that you and your daughter can pick up the pieces and move on.

Same here man.

Even when it's the woman's fault in a divorce, she still gets shit including child support. That's seriously fucked up.

Sorry OP, hope you get through this. I wish you my best.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by san~man

Your 4 year old is no reason to stay in a bad marriage. She's young enough to rebound from the strain of divorce, and it's better to get it done when she's younger rather than when she's older.

This. If she's older, she'll use it as more of an excuse to be insubordinate.

[Peanuto]

Go to his next service. Get up in the middle of his sermon, and announce that you caught him having indiscretions with your wife. Make him admit to it in front of everyone. That will fuck his life in your town.

[BTM]

^^I actually like that idea

[chungdae]

^ That's a great idea.

[Peanuto]

You can ruin someone's life without violence. He ruined yours. It's only fair to do it back. Or you could just be belligerent and say "So boning my wife was the Christian thing to do?"

[iBoost]

Do it. Get it on video. YouTube.

[Kroy]

Sorry to hear about your situation OP. It's been a month though, so you should be able to look at everything with clear eyes.

Originally Posted by tyler9595

Oh, man that's rough. No one should have to go through that crap.

So, you've had a month to think about it...if you had to make a decision now, and keep to the golden rule (difficult), what would that decision be? That's probably the right one...if you love her, think about working it out and foregiving her. If you dont, then moving on is maybe the best thing.

Again, sorry to hear about this. That's one hell of a rough situation. But, remember its ok to hate her behavior...not ok to hate her (I know...that's easy for me to say.)

Good luck.

Don't get how you can justify that. You imply, it's not OK to hate anybody at all. I call BS on that. This woman has personally earned every ounce of hate she receives. Unless you can reasonably refute this point, that is.

Originally Posted by mase

I'm sure it'd be impossible to think straight during that situation, but that would've been the best way to come out on top. And afterward get on top of a hot twenty year old.

Yeah, I probably wouldn't have done something so smart. Don't think any of us takes being betrayed very well.

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

Dude probably came in her ass.

Anywho, I dont know why all these people are sitting here talking about F ing the guy up. Dude didn't do anything wrong.

You aren't responsible for the dude. Its always the females fault.

That's what gets me man... Don't know how long he's been having Priest man's sloppy seconds.

Originally Posted by sfcu

I am not BS this f'ng story!! This guy is someone who I know and told her I dislike and don't trust and to never let him in my house as they claim to be just "friends". This happened the day after Easter Sunday, April 5. The guy had been to my house before and I told the wife NEVER EVER let him in the house again!!! She says he was there helping her clean the house!!! WTF would I be making this up. I wish I was. I produced the phone records and took it to his superiors, 10-20 calls everyday. Let's just say he works in the church and it is related to to the Vatican scandals. I am not proud to post this info on this forum, but everyone's point-of-view is saying the same thing. Sorry if it sounds like I'm jumping on anyone, but this is killing me.

Good job. IMO you're justified to do everything in your power to make his life that much worse. As much as the fault just lies with your wife, he's also an accomplice. So guilty by association.

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

Vatican scandles? Took it to his superiors?

Grow some fucken balls man. Have some fucken self respect. He bangs your wifes ass and you "take it to his superiors"? Shit. Throw the bitch out and file for divorce.

see above response. Agreed on the last point. But how is OP losing self respect for trying to get back at someone who hurt him? I'd definitely try to ruin his career amongst other things.

Originally Posted by Blake

my 2 cents...i would have left the house and immediately went straight to my lawyer's office and started getting the papers drawn up. then, next time i see her, drop that in her lap. if she freaks out then you just say "you're the one swallowing the holy sausage. do the crime, now it's time to do the time."



i get what you're saying about your daughter, but you can argue that she's an unfit mother because of her adulteress ways. get custody of your child and fuck that ho. no one really wants their child to grow up in a home where the mother is fucking any priest that gives her some holy communion anyway. just start being super dad and win over the heart of your daughter and tell mom to hit the road.

with all the problems the catholic church has been having, contacting the vatican might be an effective tool to drive that asshole out of town.

+1

OP, you want the chid you love more than anything else in the world to be raised by a whore who fucks holy men? Gotta draw the line somewhere, pal. I'd be doing my child a disservice for allowing that travesty to happen. You owe your daughter at least an effort to save her from a poor upbringing. What type of morals and values would your daughter pick up from that whore? What kind of morals would she pick up from that Priest? Makes me sad just to contemplate this.

Originally Posted by elm3

You should not be the one paying child support. That pisses me off to no end. She should be the one and you should be able to keep the house and everything that is yours. Just like women do, take her ass to the cleaners. Then throw her ass to the curve. And I'm with you, I don't trust anybody but me. Sorry that you are going through all of this. Hope that you can find a way of getting things taken care off and that you and your daughter can pick up the pieces and move on.

[Kroy]

Originally Posted by san~man

Your 4 year old is no reason to stay in a bad marriage. She's young enough to rebound from the strain of divorce, and it's better to get it done when she's younger rather than when she's older.

+1 get it done early rather than later. It'll be much better for your daughter IMO. This way you can help her cope rather than become the target of her insubbordination. Savior or scapegoat.

[Epacy2]

That's what you get for being a f@cking b!tch!!

[Spec 1]

#1: So sorry, bro.

#2: She was and has been cheating. I take this on the info you've provided. You need to get back into your home and kick her out. Rule #1 your attorney will advise is stay in your own house. It will look much better if things do go down the path of divorce. She's the one who doesn't deserve to be there, not you.

Originally Posted by BTM

I can think of for two adults go to a bedroom and need to lock the door is to do drugs or do sex, or both

True that, and you don't remove your shoes, watch, wallet, and shirt to do drugs.

Originally Posted by sfcu

I am not BS this f'ng story!! This guy is someone who I know and told her I dislike and don't trust and to never let him in my house as they claim to be just "friends". This happened the day after Easter Sunday, April 5. The guy had been to my house before and I told the wife NEVER EVER let him in the house again!!! She says he was there helping her clean the house!!! WTF would I be making this up.

Had this happen with my fiancee. She had a "friend" at college I didn't care for and hardly knew. My fiancee knew I didn't like/trust the guy. It all ended similarly to your situation (found out she was at his house all night when she told me she was "working overtime"), but I ditched the girl. It was all a lie to make her not seem like such a monster, but she was. This is the same thing. And on your bed????????? Omg, what an insult.

Originally Posted by sfcu

The guy's shoes were the first thing I saw when I opened the door to the garage. His keys, wallet, cell phone, everything was there on the kitchen counter and his shirt on the breakfast chair. He was there in the bedroom.

This is what leads me to believe it's been going on for a while. If this was a first time, the wallet/keys/phone/etc wouldn't be sitting nicely by the door. That's what happens after you've run through the situation a few times.



My plan of attack: Move back into your house and kick her out. Decide what you're going to do for you and your daughters sake. Remember she's already proven herself as a lier so I don't know how I'd be able to trust her again. Personally would file for divorce and custody, but that's your choice in the end.

[Kroy]

Originally Posted by chungdae

Moral of the story:
It's both of your faults. It's not "just" her fault and it's not "just" your fault neither. If she was truly happy, she would not be cheating on you. There are other variables involved as well; immaturity, etc. Irregardless of the excuse, it will never be good enough. You will NEVER trust her again, even with counseling, forgiveness, etc. It's time to move on and find who you are again. It's time for you to do things what you've wanted to do since you have been married. Take this as an opportunity as another chance.

What I would do:
Bust in the door with a camera, take pictures, mail them to all her family members and friends, post them on Facebook/Myspace, and humiliate her to the point she moves to another country. That way you can still keep the house and whatever is yours.

It's totally OP's fault for not noticing his wife wasn't truely happy. He should have intuitively knew something was wrong. No excuse for OP here. He's a bad man. Who can blame his wife for fucking her priest. Not god, I hope. She was only fucking him behind your back cause it's definitely easier than having a talk with you and solving the problem like adults. She's just lookin' out for you, bro. Path of least resistance.









Chungdae, not consciously trying to pick at your posts. We just have a difference of opinion. I would totally do your part 2.

[M3prsiv]

Originally Posted by E90SLAM

If the guy has a hot daughter...bang the shit outta her!

[ililillilillilil]

I sympathize with you in your situation
but from a homewrecker's POV,
this is why we don't do housecalls.
Someone could have been shot.

[chungdae]

Originally Posted by Kroy

It's totally OP's fault for not noticing his wife wasn't truely happy. He should have intuitively knew something was wrong. No excuse for OP here. He's a bad man. Who can blame his wife for fucking her priest. Not god, I hope. She was only fucking him behind your back cause it's definitely easier than having a talk with you and solving the problem like adults. She's just lookin' out for you, bro. Path of least resistance.









Chungdae, not consciously trying to pick at your posts. We just have a difference of opinion. I would totally do your part 2.

Not at all. The bitch shouldn't have had an affair with a priest. Hell a biker dude/lawyer/Doctor etc but a priest? That's beyond low.