Arranged Marriages?

[grimlock]

Originally Posted by RnmEvo9

LOL how old are you?

[Nkc]

Wow, shah at it again

[JMX328]

My father is originally from the Middle East, and his parents are very traditional and were crushed when he didn't accept the idea of arranged marriages...

... and thus, as their younger grandson (my older brother already told them "NO!" many years ago), they constantly try to get me to accept an arranged marriage.

If it works for ya, then more power to ya, but I'm not into Middle Eastern girls, nor do I want to marry someone "selected" for me.

Just my two cents. Don't have a problem with it, but it's not for me.

[shah269]

So how do they try and pressure you?

[8k3]

Originally Posted by R Grubba Balls

arranged as in you have to... hell no.

introductions/matchmaking, why not just another way to meet people.

^^ This. It's pretty much this in Middle Eastern cultures today. It's not arranged, no one says marry this individual, but they try to match-make. They are, depending on the family, strict as to where you can go with their daughter (curfews, etc), but I guess it's understandable, they are protective and want the honor and reputation of both to be intact.

[keepittrill]

I honestly don't even care, I've made peace with the idea at this point hahaha I'll still have a LITTLE say in the matter. Whatever, at least that's less work for me! Also, the person before me is correct, it isn't just "Yo, here's your girl. Marry her, have kids, live happily ever after.". It's a process where they try to make the best match possible, all while I go about my life trying to make money instead of worrying about a distraction like this! :P I can also have as many pointless, purely physical relationships as I want without the danger of commitment. "Sorry babe, parents are pulling the plug. Catch you later!" And if that makes me a douchebag, then whatever. LOL

[shah269]

dude karma is a bitch!
watch out....you may say sorry babe parents are pulling the plug...and you may end up with a pug who well...let's face it has the sex drive of a dead nun and who looks better i the dark than with the lights on.
Take it from a guy who lived 7 years with a woman who had no sex drive.....it's hell on earth and death becomes a very viable option.

[keepittrill]

Originally Posted by shah269

dude karma is a bitch!
watch out....you may say sorry babe parents are pulling the plug...and you may end up with a pug who well...let's face it has the sex drive of a dead nun and who looks better i the dark than with the lights on.
Take it from a guy who lived 7 years with a woman who had no sex drive.....it's hell on earth and death becomes a very viable option.

Hahaha I get your point, my friend. I'll just have to make sure my particular pug has a sex drive before the marriage happens ;P

[P-rex]

Originally Posted by shah269

dude karma is a bitch!
watch out....you may say sorry babe parents are pulling the plug...and you may end up with a pug who well...let's face it has the sex drive of a dead nun and who looks better i the dark than with the lights on.
Take it from a guy who lived 7 years with a woman who had no sex drive.....it's hell on earth and death becomes a very viable option.

Karma is a religious doctrine in eastern religions.... It is reality not a person

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[amanda hor$t]

Originally Posted by shah269

So how do they try and pressure you?

probably with dowry on the girl's end, or renegotiating your trust fund if it's your parents. or various other "offers you can't refuse"

[keepittrill]

They spoil the shit out of us until we feel bad refusing them. There isn't always a traditional dowry, but they usually give a gift. (Guys family pays for the wedding) I've seen everything from a simple Rolex to an S550 as a gift. I can't confirm because I wasn't there, but apparently some guy got a Gallardo for his "gift". The girls dad owns like 50 practices haha

[catherineanh]

Originally Posted by shah269

Yes men can change....and we are easy to change.
I don’t know if you can tell or not but I don’t think too highly of engineers and scientists and I think even less of engineers or scientists who are from near asia and east asia.

here we go again insulting engineers.

[keepittrill]

You don't think highly of engineers and scientists? I can't even...

[Foxrus14]

I think it is hilarious hearing all these people that are getting an arranged marriage saying it is something they now dont have to worry about trying to do. It has been taken off of your proverbial "work" plate and delegated to your parents... Are you effffin kidding me??? that is all part of the fun in growing up and learning how to manipulate things and getting through life. I don't care if they were buying me a Gallardo and a Bugatti... wouldn't do it!!!

[keepittrill]

Originally Posted by Foxrus14

I think it is hilarious hearing all these people that are getting an arranged marriage saying it is something they now dont have to worry about trying to do. It has been taken off of your proverbial "work" plate and delegated to your parents... Are you effffin kidding me??? that is all part of the fun in growing up and learning how to manipulate things and getting through life. I don't care if they were buying me a Gallardo and a Bugatti... wouldn't do it!!!

So you're of the mindset that your culture is the correct and only way? Surprising.

[Templar]

Originally Posted by keepittrill

So you're of the mindset that your culture is the correct and only way? Surprising.

Where did he say that?

He basically said that it's stupid in his opinion, which he is certainly entitled to.

[shah269]

yeah bro, as long as his call sign isn't shah269 and you are not making fun of engineers you are 100% entitled to an opinion! =)

makes you wonder in this day and age of grinder, jdate and christian mingle...why there are no web pages devoted to this subject?

yeah ok you are going to be hung.....can't you at least make the best of it so that your death will be a little less painless?

but that said, dating is a Darwinian no mans land. dating going out and meeting random women getting shot down 99/100 just because god knows why....it's all the part of the growing experience. so by delegating this to your parents....are you really maturing? are you really testing your limits?

even if you had your parents finding you a gal and you were "testing" the dating pool...knowing full well you would never commit....well that in my opinion is kind of like playing poker with fake money. you have no skin in the game.....and when you have skin in the game....things get real

[keepittrill]

Honestly, I think it works great. Plenty of time for FWB type of relationships. You never have to worry about commitment. You're way better at picking up girls because you simply don't give a damn! Some guys go out with the mindset that they can only date girls they see themselves marrying, which makes them extremely picky and they end up inhibiting themselves. That's just what I see from my perspective. And if I end up getting a Gallardo as part of the "dowry", then that's even better!

[amanda hor$t]

i overheard this once at a bar and almost spit out my beer: "yeah her dad wants to make me an offer i can't refuse and buy me a tv."

[JMX328]

Originally Posted by shah269

So how do they try and pressure you?

They call generally once or twice a month to present the idea of different girls they know. They try to guilt trip me, saying I don't know what's right for me and they obviously do, having a lot more experience in the world, etc.

I'm not going to give in... I doubt they will, either, though, lol.

[black335i]

if she is hot lol

[keepittrill]

Originally Posted by black335i

if she is hot lol

LOL That really is all you need out of a girl.