Need some advices

zhangzeyuandss · 07-20-2012, 11:51 PM

Ok, here is the story. My fiancé's brother came to town. He stayed at our place for a day. Later he asked me if he could borrow my car for a day. I really don't want to, but kind of have no other option or excuses. When he returned my car, I noticed this curb rash on my right front wheel.I never had any ding on my rims for two years.I usually park in the garage. Now this happened.

Nevertheless I was pissed. I was gonna unleash hell on him, but I stopped myself. I was wondering if it is too soon to show him my true color?

The picture is taken when I swapped my 19 inch zcp for 18inch preparing for a track day event.

Edjay · 07-21-2012, 12:54 AM

Talk to him about it. but dont unleash hell. Reason why I dont let others burrow certain cars. If I have no choice, its either I drive them around or make them wait till I can or rent him or her a $30 rental car.

tbone28 · 07-21-2012, 01:00 AM

Being that he's family, probably not the best idea to unleash hell. It's just a rim at the end of the day. He's family. Calm down, then talk to him about it.

piloto · 07-21-2012, 01:27 AM

Save the fight with the wife, pay the $400 and buy a new wheel, or get that one repaired. I feel for you. I'd be pissed too. Perhaps he had no idea that he curbed it either.

Often when they drive cars that are less sentitve to these type of things (e.g. low ground clearance, wheels with no margin for error, etc.), they don't adjust their driving style when in a more sensitive car. I'd say try and get it repaired first, and if you don't like how it turns out, go and buy a new wheel, but don't say anything to him, and just let it be water under the bridge.

Terraforce1 · 07-21-2012, 01:43 AM

I say just talk to him about it. Ask him if he did it. He'll more than likely deny it but just say it wasn't there before. Get it repaired and move on, don't dwell on it for too long

GIdriver · 07-21-2012, 06:41 AM

I'd be pissed too. However, do not unleash hell. Calm down before asking politely. At the end of the day it's just a wheel that can be easily repaired/replaced. I hope you have learned the lesson: Never let someone borrow your car.

bnombe · 07-21-2012, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by GIdriver

I'd be pissed too. However, do not unleash hell. Calm down before asking politely. At the end of the day it's just a wheel that can be easily repaired/replaced. I hope you have learned the lesson: Never let someone borrow your car.

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Mmmdreamer · 07-21-2012, 07:32 AM

Take for spin....yes....take for day....hells no! Now u just gotta lump it....tell your fiancée to broach the subject with her brother...

KIS · 07-21-2012, 07:36 AM

There is no point in confronting him, either politely or otherwise. If he were a gentleman and knew he did it, he would have volunteered he screwed up and offered to fix it. Otherwise, he either didn't know he did it, or doesn't care if he did do it. Let it go, welcome to the world of the extended family. I suggest a nice refreshing martini and a Cuban cigar. It works for me.

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zhangzeyuandss Captain 62 Rep 939 Posts Drives: e92 m3, 911 GTS manual,F80,G80 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Houston, Tx iTrader: (9)	Need some advices Ok, here is the story. My fiancé's brother came to town. He stayed at our place for a day. Later he asked me if he could borrow my car for a day. I really don't want to, but kind of have no other option or excuses. When he returned my car, I noticed this curb rash on my right front wheel.I never had any ding on my rims for two years.I usually park in the garage. Now this happened. Nevertheless I was pissed. I was gonna unleash hell on him, but I stopped myself. I was wondering if it is too soon to show him my true color? The picture is taken when I swapped my 19 inch zcp for 18inch preparing for a track day event. __________________ 2011.5 mineral white e92 zcp 6mt m3
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Edjay First Lieutenant 4 Rep 350 Posts Drives: 08 E90 AW, 76 2002 Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Sacoftomatoes Ca iTrader: (0)	Talk to him about it. but dont unleash hell. Reason why I dont let others burrow certain cars. If I have no choice, its either I drive them around or make them wait till I can or rent him or her a $30 rental car.
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tbone28 vvvvvvvvvvvvvv 333 Rep 2,305 Posts Drives: ^^^^^ Join Date: May 2012 Location: Bay Area, CA iTrader: (18)	Being that he's family, probably not the best idea to unleash hell. It's just a rim at the end of the day. He's family. Calm down, then talk to him about it.
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piloto Captain 28 Rep 843 Posts Drives: 2011 E90 M3 - AW/FR Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Orange County, CA iTrader: (0)	Save the fight with the wife, pay the $400 and buy a new wheel, or get that one repaired. I feel for you. I'd be pissed too. Perhaps he had no idea that he curbed it either. Often when they drive cars that are less sentitve to these type of things (e.g. low ground clearance, wheels with no margin for error, etc.), they don't adjust their driving style when in a more sensitive car. I'd say try and get it repaired first, and if you don't like how it turns out, go and buy a new wheel, but don't say anything to him, and just let it be water under the bridge.
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Terraforce1 If you ain't first, you're last! 7 Rep 580 Posts Drives: '14 Boxster GTS + 14' 1199 S Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Europe iTrader: (0)	I say just talk to him about it. Ask him if he did it. He'll more than likely deny it but just say it wasn't there before. Get it repaired and move on, don't dwell on it for too long
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GIdriver Major 68 Rep 1,359 Posts Drives: 2014 E63 AMG-S Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Somewhere in Time iTrader: (0)	I'd be pissed too. However, do not unleash hell. Calm down before asking politely. At the end of the day it's just a wheel that can be easily repaired/replaced. I hope you have learned the lesson: Never let someone borrow your car. __________________ 2014 E63 AMG-S 2012 C63 AMG (P31) - gone 2011 E90 M3 FBO - gone
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Mmmdreamer Captain 46 Rep 602 Posts Drives: 08 e90 M3 Jet Black Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Jersey City iTrader: (1)	Take for spin....yes....take for day....hells no! Now u just gotta lump it....tell your fiancée to broach the subject with her brother...
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KIS Lieutenant 38 Rep 543 Posts Drives: 2015 Jaguar F Type R Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Houston, Texas iTrader: (0)	There is no point in confronting him, either politely or otherwise. If he were a gentleman and knew he did it, he would have volunteered he screwed up and offered to fix it. Otherwise, he either didn't know he did it, or doesn't care if he did do it. Let it go, welcome to the world of the extended family. I suggest a nice refreshing martini and a Cuban cigar. It works for me.
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