Please say a prayer

[Autobot]

Thoughts and Prayers are out to you, I hope everything works out and a speedy recovery.

[BMW320i]

ohh that's bad...

wish him a speed recovery, i know these are difficult moments...

[Couch]

Originally Posted by 325 Baller

Thanks everyone. Couch, he had 1 stroke around 2000? and was left unable to walk or talk but about 3 years ago he got to the point where he was able to walk and talk (not easily) but was able to non the less. We went on a family vacation to a golf resort and he came in the cart with us while we played. It was nice for him to be with us. 2 months after that he had another stroke and hasnt been able to talk or really walk ever since. We visit him usually every weekend and though its sad to see him like that I enjoy sitting there and telling him whats going on in my life. I know hes probablly in pain and im being selfish but im almost 18 im too young to lose a grandfather. I really do pray he can recover from this and live to see me graduate next year from highschool. Thank you all for your support ill keep you update, I truely do appreciate you guys doing this and its really nice to have a community like this where you know you have people who will help you out when your at your worst times.

Im basically a complete wreck, I havent been able to do anything i was supposed to do tonite. I hope my teachers will understand and not be complete heartless assholes about it, but it really is impossible for me to think right now.

You speak the truth my friend. I know all too well about that selfish feeling you're talking about. I've felt it nearly all my life.

I now have no grandparents left. I never knew my dads mom, she died when my dad was in his early 20's. My dad has told me numerous times that I never truly knew his dad. I got the grumpy, heart-broken man who's soul died when my dads mom died. I lost him when I was 11.

I lost my moms dad when I was 9. He and I were close. I didn't realize how close we would have been until I was around 16/17yrs old. That still hurts me more than I can explain to this day. My mom's mom had her stroke not long after my dads dad passed away. We actually had a lady from Poland(my grandma was polish) stay with her at her house. The interesting thing was that she better understood being spoke to in Polish, than English.

I myself feel selfish too. I feel that because of my own stubbornness I chose to not visit her more. I chose to not try and bring a smile her face (sometimes she knew who you were, others she didn't) because I would leave depressed. My mom went to see her every Wednesday, sometimes twice a week. The first few years it was almost a daily visit. I don't know how she or her brother did it. So, yes I feel guilty for not trying more. But my mom has told me I had to live my life my own way. They knew it was hard on me. I also am selfish because I didn't get to have my grandparents see me turn 13, 16, graduate high school/college. That's bothers me. That's selfish. I tend to think it's normal when people die to find our own faults in their demise.

I've been to so many funerals in my 25 years of life that I'm practically numb to death. Don't get me wrong, I get sad, and I cry at times, but I think I keep most of my pain tucked away inside.

Be very glad you were able to see and speak to your grandfather as long as you have. You're memories won't fade as fast. Mine are almost gone. Hold on to what you can, and I guarantee those golf memories will be the ones you treasure for your lifetime.

If you are confused about anything going on with this or just have questions you're not sure about, shoot me a pm anytime man.

Again, my prayers are still with your family during this difficult time.

[325 Baller]

Thanks Jason, ya its sad because the last memory I can recall of hearing his voice was dinner the night before he had his stroke and he got mad at me because I wanted to leave the table and watch tv. Mind you I was around 10-11 at the time. Its sad because lately ive had dreams where I had a conversation with him and it was nice to hear his voice again.

My dad told me that hes doing the same, no better but no worse. The doctors took a catscan and saw that one of his lungs were partially collapsed. They arent sure how long its been that way or if it just occured. They also believe it was heart failure not a bacterial infection like they are hoping. Im still praying its the bacterial infection so theres a better chance of him returning to how he was before this horrible event occured. I really thank my parents for telling me all they are, they could easily treat me like a young child (which I sort of am, only 17) and not tell me details but its nice knowing they feel im mature enough to handle this. Im still praying he gets better. Ive given up on everything else I would pray for and only want this one thing and will resolve the rest on my own. I really appreciate you taking the time to talk to me.

Thanks,
Doug

[Mr.F1 Fan]

Baller,
I hope you are coping better today. I know it's tough, but stay strong. It is never easy to see someone you love in pain. Grandparents are one of the toughest at your age. I am sorry for your sorrows. I hope he shows promise soon.

-Mr.F1

[flush01]

i feel you, my grandpa recently got stroke of some sort that paralized his left leg and his left arm, and he can't really walk now... they say with time it should get better, but i'm EXTREMLY sad about whole situation, we were really really close when I was growing up... I didnt realized how much he cared for me until I got older, and everytime I think about stuff like that it bring tears to my eyes (im the type of person that NEVER gets that emotional)... just be strong man, realize that that's part of life, people don't live forever... just save those memories inside and smile when you think of him

after what happend it did change me abit too, I no longer view daily stress, small problems as something big... as long as everyone in my family healthy I could care less about small problems that used to make me really upset...

[325 Baller]

Ya I agree, I've noticed ive been less selfish lately, and thinking more of others then myself. I love the memories him and I have shared to this point and know the ones coming up will be great, like my HS graduation next year (g-d willing). Im just trying to stay positive. =(

[Victor.L3IchibanM3]

Originally Posted by 325 Baller

Ya I agree, I've noticed ive been less selfish lately, and thinking more of others then myself. I love the memories him and I have shared to this point and know the ones coming up will be great, like my HS graduation next year (g-d willing). Im just trying to stay positive. =(

Is ur grandpa still doing aiite? I will keep praying for your grandpa to get better... just stay positive and keep praying

[325 Baller]

Good news, they took him off the ventilator because he was able to breathe on his own and are moving him to a room tonite or tomarrow. Im not getting overly excited yet, its just a small step but its alot better that he can breathe on his own now. Im still going to pray for him, if you guys wouldnt mind adding something still for him my family would be very thankful.
Thanks,
Doug

[longtran]

i know the feeling. my grandpa went through the same....i miss him alot.

hope your grandpa make it through!!!

[longtran]

Originally Posted by 325 Baller

Good news, they took him off the ventilator because he was able to breathe on his own and are moving him to a room tonite or tomarrow. Im not getting overly excited yet, its just a small step but its alot better that he can breathe on his own now. Im still going to pray for him, if you guys wouldnt mind adding something still for him my family would be very thankful.
Thanks,
Doug

all i got to say is, stay by his side. every minute. if he dont feel like resting, dont make him and stay up with him. i dunno just my thought.

[ATG]

Doug, I admire the love and compassion you have for your grandpa. I lost both of my grandfathers by the time I was 17 and it was very painful. I wish that your grandpa gets better very soon.

[ksfrogman]

I feel for you. These are rough times. Make a conscious effort to do the things that will keep you feeling well and healthy--eat well, sleep enough, etc.

Best wishes for your grandpa. Hope he has a speedy recovery.

[Zirenz2006]

Sorry to hear that. Hope everything is ok.

[Year's_End]

Sorry 'bout the news. Hope he gets better soon.

[325 Baller]

Ya, I havent heard anything in the past couple of days but I sorta dont really wanna ask because I figure if they dont tell me then everything is ok; but that being said, the doctors said he was breathing on his own and they were supposed to move him out of ICU as of saturday/sunday. So thank you for your prayers, please continue to pray since he is still sick but doing better.

Thanks,
Doug

[Couch]

Originally Posted by 325 Baller

Ya, I havent heard anything in the past couple of days but I sorta dont really wanna ask because I figure if they dont tell me then everything is ok; but that being said, the doctors said he was breathing on his own and they were supposed to move him out of ICU as of saturday/sunday. So thank you for your prayers, please continue to pray since he is still sick but doing better.

Thanks,
Doug

I know what you mean. It's that "No news is good new" sort of thing.

Stay strong Doug!