Over analyzing...what's the cure?

[Augenbrauezug]

Originally Posted by MP0WER

I typically make a spread sheet and try to find patterns that may give me the answer.

LMAO

I have the same problem though, really nothing to laugh at, people have even pointed it out to me... I'd love to get an answer as to how to stop.

[JesusMChrist]

One word, six syllables; benzodiazepines.

[Vanity]

So OP writes about girl problems...

Originally Posted by sA x sKy

I'll be texting her and in my head the convo went awry, but when my friends see it, they say everything is fine. To make matters worse is when I feel that the girl is indirectly ignoring me the next day after our convo, so I start to think, "Ok, I was right and my friends are wrong. This girl definitely got creeped out by me".

Get it?

And advice is...

Originally Posted by PINeely

+1, over thinking and over-worrying situations is a common manifestation of OCD. It would be best to see a professional to determine whether this is the case for you since the treatment for OCD will be different.

Originally Posted by Nine

Are you OCD or have OCD tendancies?

Either way, there are medical and non-medical solutions that can help you with obsessing over things.

Originally Posted by JesusMChrist

One word, six syllables; benzodiazepines.

[fatgrandma]

I have no problem with over-analyzing. I try to ask myself everytime I'm in such a situation. "Will it be important for me in 1, 2, 5, years of time?" If it will be still important I do it the best I can, if it won't I just get it done with the maximum profit - minimal effort pattern.

[Robin_NL]

I'm a perfectionist when it comes to the material things like cars/watches PC/TV gear but from experience I know this:
No worries.
Perfectionism makes you feel bad imo.



The answer to your question:

[Ken37.73]

You must have some repressed feelings that you need to release. Then you might chill the fook out man.

[SS32]

Exercise, lots of it and often.
Alcohol helps too.

[grimlock]

You need to see the harm that over-analyzing (or whatever else, drugs, alcohol, anxiety, depression etc.) does.
As crazy as it sounds, you can't actually see it right now, at least you're not conciously thinking about it. Instead what is on your mind is, when you're engaging in the behaviour, "I'll just do this and hopefully it will work".. but ofcourse it doesn't, then afterwards you forget about it or rationalize it away, only to do the exact same thing next time.
How to stop? SEE THE HARM
Stop focusing on doing the behavior (it will never work)
If the only command you give yourself, everytime you catch yourself doing it, or as now wondering how you can stop it, instead of repeating the unending cycle, each time you will be propelled to question why it is you are doing what you are doing. (Because thinking about the negative effects immediately cause you to reflect.)
You will not stop immediately, the reflection needs to take place to 'correct' the other beliefs or things that are 'wrong' with you, when those are fixed, the balance will flip and automatically you will no longer do what you want to stop doing.
The reason why it is like this is because there is a hidden 'balance' of forces (sorry, required eyeroll here ) that control how you behave.
It is because we can't see most of it is why it appears so mysterious.
You only see yourself over-analyzing, but you don't know WHY you do it.
You can't WILLINGLY stop,.. but why? this seems to contravene logic - is there no free will?
I propose it is because their are hidden factors/forces that are acting on you, which you are not right now aware of.
These factors will become apparent when you are focused, with your concious mind, on the harm of the behaviour you want stopped. Your subconcious or whatever will fill in the gaps, letting you in on the truth, showing you things about yourself you never realized before, and naturally swinging the balance in favor of being able to stop the behaviour, hence your free will is regained.

Disclaimer: I take no responsibility for anything. This is not an incitation to do anything. Everything writen above is pure fiction and for entertainment purposes only!

[lolauto]

I'm surprised noone said this yet... Spark a j...

[SS32]

Originally Posted by lolauto

I'm surprised noone said this yet... Spark a j...

Unless he's the type that would go into super-analyzing mode and have a panic attack

[mesropb23]

read the famous book, Blink

[CPWINCH]

smoke a bunch of weed.. makes you not give a fuck

[sA x sKy]

Originally Posted by CPWINCH

smoke a bunch of weed.. makes you not give a fuck

i don't blaze connor..not anymore at least

anyways, lately i've just been doing this: as i start to over analyze, i recognize what i'm doing and then i just tell myself to stop thinking entirely. it's been working pretty well so far.

[CPWINCH]

Originally Posted by sA x sKy

i don't blaze connor..not anymore at least

anyways, lately i've just been doing this: as i start to over analyze, i recognize what i'm doing and then i just tell myself to stop thinking entirely. it's been working pretty well so far.

haha same here. everyone smokes in cali though. Thats prolly the best thing to do. Noticing the problem is the first step in curing it

[dtwyim]

I think grimlock has it worse than OP.

To OP, find a therapist?

The comment about taking benzos might actually be not that far off. There appears to be some situational anxiety that manifested as "obsessional" thoughts. And I use the term obsessional loosely.

[PINeely]

Originally Posted by dtwyim

I think grimlock has it worse than OP.

To OP, find a therapist?

The comment about taking benzos might actually be not that far off. There appears to be some situational anxiety that manifested as "obsessional" thoughts. And I use the term obsessional loosely.

I disagree, you don't want to take benzos for everyday anxiety, believe me, I have before. All they do is tone you down so that the anxiety is suppressed, but by suppressing it it never is raised and addressed by the sufferer. Benzos will draw out an anxiety disorder in many instances and benzo dependency develops quickly and is bad news.

They aren't meant to be taken everyday usually or at least they shouldn't keep you on them for longer than a couple of months. It's something that you bomb someone with in cases of trauma or disaster.

[dtwyim]

Originally Posted by PINeely

I disagree, you don't want to take benzos for everyday anxiety, believe me, I have before. All they do is tone you down so that the anxiety is suppressed, but by suppressing it it never is raised and addressed by the sufferer. Benzos will draw out an anxiety disorder in many instances and benzo dependency develops quickly and is bad news.

They aren't meant to be taken everyday usually or at least they shouldn't keep you on them for longer than a couple of months. It's something that you bomb someone with in cases of trauma or disaster.

Agree with the potential downside of taking benzos. I was not trying to suggest continuous pharmacological therapy with benzos as the only treatment. Hence my comment about some form of counseling by a therapist.

[xtac]

I have this problem x 100

I honestly have the most difficult time choosing what to eat, almost every single day.

I've realized its a few things.

1) I always want to make the best decision possible
2) I always want to have options ie no commitment.
3) I always want to see all other options
4) I'm constantly thinking about the future rather than the now.
5) Working out helps immensely as does having something solid to do career wise.
6) become more social, having tons of friends doesnt mean anything, try to surround yourself with like minded people as well as those who give diff opinons.
7) read zen habits, sennca, ie the classics and try to find a way to live your life
8) helping people is the only purpose of life, and doing whatever makes you happy
9) buying shit does not make you happy, but money helps tremendously if used properly
10) sex

[grimlock]

Originally Posted by dtwyim

I think grimlock has it worse than OP.

To OP, find a therapist?

The comment about taking benzos might actually be not that far off. There appears to be some situational anxiety that manifested as "obsessional" thoughts. And I use the term obsessional loosely.

I'm waaay over the line, better finish walking the walk cuz I figure I should be closer to the finish than going back to the start.

A therapist, like a swing coach, is very good for pointing out what's wrong, they can point out a lot of things that you may be totally oblivious to.
But once you know what the problem is, how do you correct it? Is it just as easy as 'just stopping'?
With addiction or impulsive disorders, it's obviously not enough, or we could simple 'will' our way to do anything we decide to. Something we cannot control that is stronger wins and we obey it instead, -no free will.
With over-analysing, as one guy suggested, if you set a 'story' or rationale, like ask yourself if this will matter in X years time, this serves to persuade yourself through logic to act the way you want. But what are you actually persuading, or acting against? What is this dark matter of the psyche that controls use against our better intentions?

[EvosM3]

I guess the only cure is..... Underanalyzing.

[mlifxs]

I deal with this. Sometimes keeps me awake at night. What has helped me:

a. Believe in a power greater than myself and seek it when distressed.
b. Remembering humility. I am no worse or no better than others.
c. Helping someone else or showing appreciation to someone. It could be the simplest act.

Best,

[matt]

Sometimes I wish I vould shove a powder blue crayon up my nose.