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      05-17-2011, 07:00 PM   #1
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Sad homo relationship drama..

Well not that the internet is the best place to talk about these things, but we haven't decided to talk to friends or family about it.. and just to get things out of the way, I am gay so if you're going to respond with a fuckslut response please save the e9x database some space and overcome the desire to post said useless posts.


Long story short(ish). We met when I was 18, he was 27.. Have been together for almost 10 years and there have been some rough patches a few times, we did separate for a few months once but still saw each other and ended up moving back in together. I tried to get over what had happened in the past, but i'm always somewhat still suspicious of his actions.. Lately [the last year or so], it hasn't even been about that.. I think we really just don't like each other, which is sad, because I absolutely love and will always love him, but I think we just have a good business arrangement and friendship versus an actual relationship.

Last night something happened that I didn't like, so I just went to bed.. this morning was the same, we didn't say much to each other. Didn't hear from him all day, he didn't hear from me.. When he got home tonight we started talking, and at first I wasn't upset, but now I am getting all stupid emotional about it. We're going to split up, but we're not sure of the best way to proceed. He said he doesn't want anything, I don't want it all, and i'm nervous because the house is in my name, so he could [though I don't think he would] just up and leave and i'm stuck with all the bills.

So, my dear internet companions, does anyone have any useful advice? I've never lived on my own before, and everything we have is attached to each other, phones, health insurance, etc. We have pets too, and I don't want to split them up but I also wouldn't be able to find a rental that would let me have 4 animals..

/shrug*cry*alcohol.


Thanks for listening and letting me vent/be emogay.
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Get a roommate man
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      05-17-2011, 07:12 PM   #3
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I would try to make it as clean of a break as possible. All jokes aside you should sit him down and talk about the issues at hand and realize that you two are over (?).
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Get a roommate man
I've thought about that, but our house is an hour from where I work, plus it's our house so even with a room mate it would still be weird.

I've been wanting to move closer to where we work for a while now, the thought of still driving all that way to the same house where we used to be happy doesn't sound appealing at all..
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      05-17-2011, 07:38 PM   #5
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Who made those tags, lol.

As far as the situation, no point being unhappy which from how you described the situation you are.
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      05-17-2011, 07:40 PM   #6
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move somewhere else, or deal with it? If you guys have a good thing going besides your relationship, dont fuck that up. Keep business separate from pleasure right?
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      05-17-2011, 08:25 PM   #7
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Sorry to hear about your situation man. It's always hard to end long relationships but sometimes it's good to know when it's time to let go. I don't know if in your case that is the situation but you guys will need to talk it out. I don't think you'll have any trouble living alone; it'll just get some time getting used to. Chase after happiness. That's the only advice I can give you. Weight everything out and take steps to a happier life whatever that may be.
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End it. Divide it. Sell it. It's just stuff. Move on. Life is too short to be in shitty relationships.
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I would try going to a counselor since it's been a very long relationship and there are many issues to sort out.
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As for living alone, I have been alone for quite a few years now and it's quite exhilarating, total freedom. I understand also that it's not for everyone. Good luck.
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I don't think counseling would yield any results, at least not couples counseling. There's not a lot to talk about I guess, other than it sucks, and i'm sad.. no need to pay someone for that.

On the upside, the divorce diet yields amazing weight loss results
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I don't think counseling would yield any results, at least not couples counseling. There's not a lot to talk about I guess, other than it sucks, and i'm sad.. no need to pay someone for that.

On the upside, the divorce diet yields amazing weight loss results
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End it. Divide it. Sell it. It's just stuff. Move on. Life is too short to be in shitty relationships.
What this guy said.

Op, you are to emotionally attached to everything, and you gave no details but it sounds like you are really unhappy.

You know what you need to do, if you need us to tell you that it's ok to do it, here you go. It's ok to clean house and start fresh.
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I guess selling things might be the best idea, removes any memories attached to them
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screw his little brother and his dad.

Funny, that feels different suggest with sister and mom... to each his own.


Hope ya feel, better OP... chin up. Shit happens. (ps- I smashed all the shit when the ex left me. Especially hers. lol selling it definitely sounds smarter in retrospect. good luck)
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pics or ban. and if you're ever in socal, hit me up. i'll make you forget about all this
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