BMW M3 Forum (E90 E92)

BMW Garage BMW Meets Register Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read


Go Back   M3Post - BMW M3 Forum > BIMMERPOST Universal Forums > Off-Topic Discussions Board
 
Post Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
      02-28-2013, 10:17 PM   #45
shah269
Major
United_States
80
Rep
1,009
Posts

 
Drives: 2009
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: NJ

iTrader: (0)

I think I have learned more about me than I have learned about women from this article.
Having had a rough up bringing I am not use to getting compliments even from friends and i have to admit i has held me back on many matters in my life.

I hope you enjoyed the article as much as I have.
Appreciate 0
      02-28-2013, 10:25 PM   #46
amanda hor$t
Banned
27
Rep
208
Posts

 
Drives: a380
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: ny ny

iTrader: (0)

u guys ever been to amsterdam? the "hot chick" that you put on a pedestal... when it comes down to it she's worth about a 1spot (if looks and getting laid are all that matter)... now go!
Appreciate 0
      02-28-2013, 10:31 PM   #47
JAM3S
Lieutenant
JAM3S's Avatar
6
Rep
599
Posts

 
Drives: E92 M3
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Charlotte

iTrader: (1)

*books flight to Amsterdam*
Appreciate 0
      02-28-2013, 10:35 PM   #48
shah269
Major
United_States
80
Rep
1,009
Posts

 
Drives: 2009
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: NJ

iTrader: (0)

save your self some money....fly to Cali Colombia you will thank me later
Appreciate 0
      02-28-2013, 10:38 PM   #49
bumere90
Grozniy
United_States
51
Rep
2,601
Posts

 
Drives: Carless
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: FL

iTrader: (12)

damn, now I know why I am not getting laid
thanks!
Appreciate 0
      02-28-2013, 11:00 PM   #50
JAM3S
Lieutenant
JAM3S's Avatar
6
Rep
599
Posts

 
Drives: E92 M3
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Charlotte

iTrader: (1)

Good idea.... I like the sound of Colombianas
Appreciate 0
      02-28-2013, 11:03 PM   #51
amanda hor$t
Banned
27
Rep
208
Posts

 
Drives: a380
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: ny ny

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by JAM3S View Post
*books flight to Amsterdam*
+23 doo doo doo dobeedobeedobeedo bop!
Appreciate 0
      02-28-2013, 11:22 PM   #52
Colt
Spoolin' & droolin'
Colt's Avatar
United_States
24
Rep
1,215
Posts

 
Drives: 08 135i 6MT
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Maryland

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by shah269 View Post
save your self some money....fly to Cali Colombia you will thank me later
Get me some good ass deals on Dyson and I'll think about it
__________________
Quote:
Originally Posted by Nate4641 View Post
looks like unicorn vomit.
For Sale: 08 135i SR 6MT, PTF Tuned
Appreciate 0
      02-28-2013, 11:38 PM   #53
Vic311
Banned
United_States
17
Rep
1,469
Posts

 
Drives: 2011 e92 M3
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: NY

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by f30nynj View Post
I would agree that I lost couple of opportunities just cuz I was responsive & showed good interest. She thought I was clingy.

But now, even though I like her I would act like I m not too much. Responding to texts with a 20-30min delay and not revealing too much at same time. Just engage her enough so she'll come back. It works for me!!

It is about keeping the right slack, not too tight & not too saggy.
So true.
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 12:09 AM   #54
Greenkirby21
Vrooom :)
Greenkirby21's Avatar
United_States
90
Rep
2,608
Posts

 
Drives: C7 Stringray
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Dream Land

iTrader: (1)

Send a message via AIM to Greenkirby21
this makes sense picking up girls, getting laid, or getting a girlfriend(worked for me in HS, girls I tended to ignore kept on being annoying and wanted to spend time with me), but what happens after you grow up, get married or advance to a deep relationship? Do you still treat her like crap, show no interest and ignore her calls? How do you keep her wanting you without making you seem like a jerk?

is there a point where you both just grow up and treat each other like normal human beings with love instead of this princess and knight story?

I've been dating my gf for 3.5 years, and I didn't have to do that kinda stuff to get her to notice me. We became friends and after some time we started to just do everything together because we enjoyed each others company. She's not only my gf but also my best friend.

However, the argument does make sense about wants and needs. I remember the first christmas I got my gf some jewelry and she cried tears of joy. Now if I do it she just says pretends like its something normal.
__________________
2014 C7 Corvette Stringray - Laguna Blue - NPP Exhaust - Competition Seats
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 01:35 AM   #55
Colt
Spoolin' & droolin'
Colt's Avatar
United_States
24
Rep
1,215
Posts

 
Drives: 08 135i 6MT
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Maryland

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by Greenkirby21 View Post
is there a point where you both just grow up and treat each other like normal human beings with love instead of this princess and knight story?
A majority of the time, no. Multiple women seem to live this philosophy. It's the ones you pick and choose to go further into life with. For all we know the wack job down the street is a hot woman at age 40, single mom, and still thinks shes some sort of princess that needs a lifeboat..
__________________
Quote:
Originally Posted by Nate4641 View Post
looks like unicorn vomit.
For Sale: 08 135i SR 6MT, PTF Tuned
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 06:58 AM   #56
bumere90
Grozniy
United_States
51
Rep
2,601
Posts

 
Drives: Carless
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: FL

iTrader: (12)

Quote:
Originally Posted by Angerman View Post
A majority of the time, no. Multiple women seem to live this philosophy. It's the ones you pick and choose to go further into life with. For all we know the wack job down the street is a hot woman at age 40, single mom, and still thinks shes some sort of princess that needs a lifeboat..
+1 so true
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 08:08 AM   #57
KingOfJericho
Major General
KingOfJericho's Avatar
United_States
95
Rep
5,189
Posts

 
Drives: Yes
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: CT

iTrader: (1)

Garage List
2010 135i Coupe  [2.63]
Quote:
Originally Posted by Greenkirby21 View Post
this makes sense picking up girls, getting laid, or getting a girlfriend(worked for me in HS, girls I tended to ignore kept on being annoying and wanted to spend time with me), but what happens after you grow up, get married or advance to a deep relationship? Do you still treat her like crap, show no interest and ignore her calls? How do you keep her wanting you without making you seem like a jerk?

is there a point where you both just grow up and treat each other like normal human beings with love instead of this princess and knight story?

I've been dating my gf for 3.5 years, and I didn't have to do that kinda stuff to get her to notice me. We became friends and after some time we started to just do everything together because we enjoyed each others company. She's not only my gf but also my best friend.

However, the argument does make sense about wants and needs. I remember the first christmas I got my gf some jewelry and she cried tears of joy. Now if I do it she just says pretends like its something normal.
There's a fine line between being a gentleman and being a cuckold. This thread made me shake my head. It screams desperation. Those are the scenarios where he'll come home and find her getting drilled by the pool boy.

I think you are misinterpreting what we're saying a little bit. Treating each other like normal human beings instead of a princess is pretty much exactly what we're saying. I've also had friendships that turned into relationships but that's not really the scenario we're talking about. I buy my wife flowers on occasion (randomly - it's more effective) but I certainly don't feel as if I have to give her my Amex to keep her happy.

Bottom line: Girls like guys who act like guys.
__________________
The views and opinions expressed in this post are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Bimmerpost.

2010 S4 Current | 2010 BMW 135i Retired | 2006 Lotus Exige Retired
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 08:17 AM   #58
gatorfast
Colonel
gatorfast's Avatar
32
Rep
2,659
Posts

 
Drives: MR E90 M3
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: SoFla

iTrader: (3)

Maybe in high school women like jerks but that is certainly is not true later in life. Having a good career and being respectful carries much more weight when women are looking to get serious.

Maybe the whores that hang out at the trashy clubs/bars like jerks but any girl that's marriage material probably doesn't.
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 08:19 AM   #59
KingOfJericho
Major General
KingOfJericho's Avatar
United_States
95
Rep
5,189
Posts

 
Drives: Yes
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: CT

iTrader: (1)

Garage List
2010 135i Coupe  [2.63]
I don't think that anyone advocated acting like a "jerk", additionally, the balance of power shifts drastically when age increases.
__________________
The views and opinions expressed in this post are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Bimmerpost.

2010 S4 Current | 2010 BMW 135i Retired | 2006 Lotus Exige Retired
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 08:45 AM   #60
shah269
Major
United_States
80
Rep
1,009
Posts

 
Drives: 2009
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: NJ

iTrader: (0)

Please not the TED vido i posted on the last page.
I think it may answer all of your questions about continued relationships.
Shah

ps
also look at the comments section of the article. you may be amazed at what you will see.

ppss
Also this makes you ponder online dating?
how do you flirt with a woman who though single and looking has a low view of herself but is armed with the delete key?
Dude 1 "Hey Buttercup269 I love that photo of you on the beach riding the horse! Where was that? Looks like fun?
Buttercup269....oh shit he thinks i'm pretty and wants to talk to me....omg omg omg omg this makes me feel uncomfortable...delete.

Dude 1 “Hey Buttercup269, sup sup girl, that’s a cute looking horse in that photo and the girl on top isn’t too bad either.”
Buttercup269……oh shit what a fucking asshole! Omg omg omg fuck him…delete.

I really don’t mean to be rude, but this is why my therapist drives a top of the line E class she paid for in cash and owns three homes. One here in NJ, one ski house in Vermont and one on the beach in Florida. Not that we men are any better but at least….well…

Last edited by shah269; 03-01-2013 at 08:56 AM.
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 09:05 AM   #61
KingOfJericho
Major General
KingOfJericho's Avatar
United_States
95
Rep
5,189
Posts

 
Drives: Yes
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: CT

iTrader: (1)

Garage List
2010 135i Coupe  [2.63]
Are you on bath salts?
__________________
The views and opinions expressed in this post are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Bimmerpost.

2010 S4 Current | 2010 BMW 135i Retired | 2006 Lotus Exige Retired
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 09:26 AM   #62
Templar
Lieutenant Colonel
Templar's Avatar
United_States
39
Rep
1,823
Posts

 
Drives: 2011 E92 M3
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: One of the coasts...

iTrader: (1)

Garage List
2011 BMW M3  [5.00]
Quote:
Originally Posted by Team Plutonium View Post
See, this again is a post that has me convinced that you are a very sophisticated troll. If that is not the case... you are the saddest individual on this forum... by a mile.


This guy was signed up for OK Cupid, and comes here making fun of online dating?
__________________
'11 BMW E92 ///M3 - ZCP and DCT
'13 Toyota Tundra - 4x4 Platinum CrewMax, 5.7l iForce V8
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 09:37 AM   #63
KingOfJericho
Major General
KingOfJericho's Avatar
United_States
95
Rep
5,189
Posts

 
Drives: Yes
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: CT

iTrader: (1)

Garage List
2010 135i Coupe  [2.63]
Quote:
Originally Posted by Templar View Post


This guy was signed up for OK Cupid, and comes here making fun of online dating?
Maybe he's trolling there too...
__________________
The views and opinions expressed in this post are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Bimmerpost.

2010 S4 Current | 2010 BMW 135i Retired | 2006 Lotus Exige Retired
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 09:39 AM   #64
shah269
Major
United_States
80
Rep
1,009
Posts

 
Drives: 2009
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: NJ

iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by Templar View Post


This guy was signed up for OK Cupid, and comes here making fun of online dating?
Sigh...face palm....what I'm saying is (I got angry for no reason)
Due to the insights gained from this article regarding cognitive dissonance caused by the external not matching the internal. Does this mean that the model of online dating is at its core flawed? Such that those women who you as a man find attractive may in fact not be ready willing nor able to accept your heat felt advances and ignore you? And if you took the tact of meeting them where they feel they should be, being slightly offensive, the woman would be offended since she has received dozens of emails of praise….and as such again ignored?

Perhaps an effective online dating model / speed dating model would be one where the women hit on the men and the men then responded. For this would force if not imply that the woman has either come to terms with the dissonance of the external and the internal and is open to being praised for her intellect, beauty or presence OR the woman never had this issue in the first place and this is a non issue.

But this would mean turning the mating instincts we ourselves have ingrained in our cultural DNA on its head. And I don’t think that would ever really get off the ground for many women in our and the greater society not only have a great fear of rejection but also a fear of objectification.

However of the stable and healthy relationships I have seen in my life, a good number were initiated by the girl walking over to the guy rather than the man perusing the woman.

This is called a conversation, you discuss ideas of thoughts and points of view?

Last edited by shah269; 03-01-2013 at 09:53 AM.
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 09:44 AM   #65
RambleJ
Colonel
RambleJ's Avatar
No_Country
27
Rep
2,013
Posts

 
Drives: F10 535i M-sport
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Back in teh so cal

iTrader: (2)

Quote:
Originally Posted by gatorfast View Post
Maybe in high school women like jerks but that is certainly is not true later in life. Having a good career and being respectful carries much more weight when women are looking to get serious.

Maybe the whores that hang out at the trashy clubs/bars like jerks but any girl that's marriage material probably doesn't.
It works perfectly fine later in life.. I'm in my 30s its going just fine.
But I think you misunderstand it, its not to the point of being a jerk. But not wearing your heart on your sleeve and learning to become the object that they are reaching for not vice versa.
If you are too nice you'll end up in the friend zone and if you're a complete tool you'll only get club rats. So its learning how to walk in the middle and when to walk away.
Appreciate 0
      03-01-2013, 09:47 AM   #66
Templar
Lieutenant Colonel
Templar's Avatar
United_States
39
Rep
1,823
Posts

 
Drives: 2011 E92 M3
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: One of the coasts...

iTrader: (1)

Garage List
2011 BMW M3  [5.00]
Quote:
Originally Posted by shah269 View Post
Sigh...face palm....what I'm saying is IF YOU TOOK YOUR THUMB OUT OF YOUR ASS AND READ.....both the article and my question is this.

Due to the insights gained from this article regarding cognitive dissonance caused by the external not matching the internal. Does this mean that the model of online dating is at its core flawed? Such that those women who you as a man find attractive may in fact not be ready willing nor able to accept your heat felt advances and ignore you? And if you took the tact of meeting them where they feel they should be, being slightly offensive, the woman would be offended since she has received dozens of emails of praise….and as such again ignored?

Perhaps an effective online dating model / speed dating model would be one where the women hit on the men and the men then responded. For this would force if not imply that the woman has either come to terms with the dissonance of the external and the internal and is open to being praised for her intellect, beauty or presence OR the woman never had this issue in the first place and this is a non issue.

But this would mean turning the mating instincts we ourselves have ingrained in our cultural DNA on its head. And I don’t think that would ever really get off the ground for many women in our and the greater society not only have a great fear of rejection but also a fear of objectification.

However of the stable and healthy relationships I have seen in my life, a good number were initiated by the girl walking over to the guy rather than the man perusing the woman.

This is called a conversation, you discuss ideas of thoughts and points of view?
Please...

No one reads your worthless posts...
__________________
'11 BMW E92 ///M3 - ZCP and DCT
'13 Toyota Tundra - 4x4 Platinum CrewMax, 5.7l iForce V8

Last edited by Templar; 03-05-2013 at 11:48 AM.
Appreciate 0
Post Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Forum Jump


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 06:15 PM.




m3post
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.7.0
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
1Addicts.com, BIMMERPOST.com, E90Post.com, F30Post.com, M3Post.com, ZPost.com, 5Post.com, 6Post.com, 7Post.com, XBimmers.com logo and trademark are properties of BIMMERPOST