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      09-10-2012, 11:55 AM   #23
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How about you stop thinking...you think way too much!
Just go with the flow!
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      09-10-2012, 12:12 PM   #24
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How about you stop thinking...you think way too much!
Just go with the flow!
Agreed.

Not every girl is going to give it up on the 2nd date. The fact that she stayed the night after you guys "cooled it down" a little proves she wasn’t scared away.

See each other a few more times, maybe let her make a move beyond making out. Just feel out the situation.

It was only your 2nd time seeing her.
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      09-10-2012, 12:42 PM   #25
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Agreed.

Not every girl is going to give it up on the 2nd date. The fact that she stayed the night after you guys "cooled it down" a little proves she wasn’t scared away.

See each other a few more times, maybe let her make a move beyond making out. Just feel out the situation.

It was only your 2nd time seeing her.
Understood. That's a great point you make - she wouldn't have stayed over for nothing.

I'll just shoot her a text saying have a great day at work and that I would love to see your new car sometime (she just got a new car today).
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You are stressing out and over analysing. I say take some time off and pull back a bit.
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You are stressing out and over analysing. I say take some time off and pull back a bit.
That's what she said.



I'd love to give some bad advice, but OP sounds genuinely concerned. Why I'm still not sure.

She stayed, she's still interested, and I presume you acted like a gentlemen after acting like a dog? I wouldn't continue to say "Sorry, sorry, sorry" - you've said it a few times right, that's it, she knows. Any more, and it might come off weird as though you're sorry you showed any interest and it won't happen again (it should happen again, just not the way you did it - just take it slow, but go in for the kiss / hug...just show her you are a gentleman). Let her adjust - you guys just basically met, if she went with what you were going for, would you really like her long term? Would she really be the girl you'd want to bring home? I bet not - I wouldn't if I were in your situation.

So kudos to her, I respect that about her, and you gotta calm down. Be yourself (unless your a horny teenager, then try to be someone a little more mature) so she gets to know you, and take it slow if you really like this girl.
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      09-10-2012, 03:59 PM   #28
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OP ur overthinking shit.

Stop putting emphasis on the fact that she rejected you when u tried to fuck/finger/destroy her vagina on a 2nd date. A lot of women will do, they simply haven't build up enough trust in you yet to do such things (unless you're really good at talking or they're a slut). Which neither of them seem to be the case right now.

Just text her saying "so when am i getting the ride in the new beast? " even if its a prius.
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At her door, I just told her..hey i hope last night was okay and i didnt mean to give you the wrong impression from last night.

What should I do now? Is she losing interest? When's the next best time to talk to her?
DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR GOING AFTER WHAT YOU WANT. You're a man and it's completely natural- not something to apologize for. The only thing to apologize for is putting VERY intense pressure on her. And too fast doesn't mean "no", it means "not yet".

Next time she says something like "too fast", try something like this. Act completely unstarteled and don't skip a beat. Slowly put your hand on her somewhere "OK". Then put her hand on yours and tell her something like "You're in complete control of this situation. I'm going to let things flow naturally, but if you don't like where my hand is, just brush it away or put it somewhere you do want to be touched" Then, over the course of 15 minutes escalate again VERY gradually, giving her plenty of chances to de-escalate if she wants. She probably won't, but if she does more than a couple of times, just be OK with it- not disappointed OR apologetic.
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Jk but I agree with those who are saying its a good sign she didn't run off after saying no.
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      09-11-2012, 07:28 PM   #32
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There a million reasons why should could have reject your suggestion of moving things along physically. It could have been 'her time of the month' among a whole other number of reasons...

Don't over apologize. And stop overthinking it. you have to be more secure with yourself.
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OP...she could be from Bangkok...

Or, she just wants to keep her virginity until after marriage? I don't know, it could be a possibility.
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I hope its not the virgin girl that huangyichow banged on the second date..
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      09-13-2012, 12:43 AM   #35
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I hope its not the virgin girl that huangyichow banged on the second date..
but that one was imaginary, this one is real ... right? !!
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Allow me to help.

1) Google "large penis"
2) send pic of largest penis you can find in text to her
3) along with pic, say your coming by with a roll of hefty bags
4) profit.
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Am I the only one who read she wanted to make plans with him to go to NYC for x-mas? That is not normal first date stuff.....
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I'm going to pass on info to you that was passed on to me by my grandfather.

Do you know why god gave women tits? So you won't pay too much attention to what is coming out of their mouths.

Women blab and blab and blab....doesn't mean any actual info is being provided.
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If you don't hit it by the 3rd date... Your not a MAN.
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Am I the only one who read she wanted to make plans with him to go to NYC for x-mas? That is not normal first date stuff.....
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Am I the only one who read she wanted to make plans with him to go to NYC for x-mas? That is not normal first date stuff.....
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Thanks! This is great advice. The messaging app is called Wechat or "weixin" in Chinese. It is commonly used by Asians. So if you're into Asians..go for it!
hahahahaha I have weixin/QQ

Haven't used it in a while though.

this is too funny lol


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Am I the only one who read she wanted to make plans with him to go to NYC for x-mas? That is not normal first date stuff.....
I was going to comment on that too.......

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If you don't hit it by the 3rd date... You're not a MAN.
personally for me, the girls who I have waited longer than 3 dates to go all the way ... lasted a LOT longer (years vs months).

For me, if the girls gives it up in the first couple dates... then that's all she's worth to me.
If I see a future and like her, I personally like to wait. I don't hold hands or even give a peck until the 2nd or 3rd date


OP: the fact that she stayed over means she likes you...but at the same time... this girl sounds like one that is great for fun dates and once you get closer, to have some great sex (Chinese girls tend to be crazier than other Asians)
But I wouldn't see much of a future... if she's planning a NYC trip... that's scary..........and she sleeps over on a second date..... not good in my book


It's obvious she's into you, so just go with the flow and have fun.

I'm curious..how old are you two?
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hahahahaha I have weixin/QQ

Haven't used it in a while though.

this is too funny lol




I was going to comment on that too.......



personally for me, the girls who I have waited longer than 3 dates to go all the way ... lasted a LOT longer (years vs months).

For me, if the girls gives it up in the first couple dates... then that's all she's worth to me.
If I see a future and like her, I personally like to wait. I don't hold hands or even give a peck until the 2nd or 3rd date


OP: the fact that she stayed over means she likes you...but at the same time... this girl sounds like one that is great for fun dates and once you get closer, to have some great sex (Chinese girls tend to be crazier than other Asians)
But I wouldn't see much of a future... if she's planning a NYC trip... that's scary..........and she sleeps over on a second date..... not good in my book


It's obvious she's into you, so just go with the flow and have fun.

I'm curious..how old are you two?

Change your name to "Asianluvdoctor"
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