thanks guys, I finally found a used 2008 m3 on a local dealer lot w/ FR. the dealer has it listed as dream red but i don't think that color was offered in 2008 and the photos look way too close to FR. now i can finally see it IRL.
e90 M3, Space Gray / Extended Black, ZCP, ZCV, ZP2, DCT
sold: 2008 BS 135i 6MT