You should have researched this earlier. There's tons of pictures on the forum showing the Anthracite wood trim. And unfortunately, the center console is unique to the M3, the other 3-series consoles won't work due to a different shifter cutout so there's no replacing the console with wood.
FWIW, the center console (at least the top) is leather, so they say, which to me is a bit nicer than the wood. Also, the Anthracite wood is real wood, not a cheap plastic imitation like on many other cars.
Are they skimping? I would say you have a bargain since you bought the M3 for how it drives, not for how the trim looks. Right?
I've been assimilated. 6MT/ZPP/18"/PS extended.