I was all set to purchase the VMR wheel you are looking at now but decided not to based on the weight, their cast and a "few" issues with durability.
Depending on what accessories you have on your car, either color will look good. Gunmetal a little more subtle where matte black is more aggressive.
2006 Lotus Elise SC
2008 AW E92 M3 6MT - Sold
2004 AP2 S2000 - Sold