Obviously OP wants to get ED discounted price w/o physically going there.
First you need to understand the requirement for ED (per bimmerfest ED wiki):
# Be at least 18 years of age with a valid driver's license and passport.
# Place your order through an authorized BMW center. Note: Cars built in the U.S. ( X5/X6 models) are not eligible for the European Delivery Program, nor are MINIs.
# You may keep your car in Europe up to 5 months after delivery (there is a 19% penalty tax if your car is not exported within the 6-month period). Cars financed through BMW Financial Services must be exported within 90 days. Cars leased through BMW Financial Services must be exported within 30 days.
# Your new BMW is restricted to private use by tourists (including business travelers). Persons working in Europe on temporary or long-term assignments are not eligible for the special customs license plates issued under the European Delivery Program.
Basically the person ordering the car MUST be the one picking up the car. How you work around this is for you to think about.