Worry not. Some of us, like me, have a very impersonal and confrontation style to discussion. I am open to debate, just bring valid backing for any points you are making.
I have some catching up to do. I only managed ~6k miles on the Elise so far. I had far less than that on the M3.
I can tell you from personal experience you will never be happy with a combined daily driver and track car IF you are pushing on the track or don't like lots of "whats wrong with your car?" questions from your date.
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The other thing to keep in mind when it comes to a compromise setup. Don't skimp on the shocks. They more than any other component of the suspension determine the ride quality of the car.
Now if BMW would simply include an M version of ARS then much of this debate would become acidemic. You would simply want to fix the camber and call it done for anything short of a track only car. ARS more than any other BMW development hold the potential to make a car that can be both comfortable on the street and yet still perform when required.
Manual gearboxes, the rotary dial of cars.