Why do you feel anyone outside the tristate should have to subsidize making your commute easier? What type of sense of entitlement do you have that makes you think someone in Montana who chose to live there because there were no traffic problems should fork over his hard earned dollars to make the choice you made less painful for you?
If you want your roads expanded, talk to your state legislature.
Last time i checked heavy traffic is usually a consequence of high population... Higher population means more taxed income, including fed. Do you understand the relationship now?
And I'm not opposed to improving all roads, in fact, I would like to have the government pay for all interstate highways - instead of rebuilding infrastructure that we "shock and awe"-ed to the dark ages...