I'm sorry to hear that you've had your ears ripped off.
Tape them back on and ask your mil sales guy to do a special order and request approval from BMWNA.
If you ask about leather, I'll do paint, so we can see how flexible they are.
A prepaid car with no chance of calling off the deal after the car arrives is a no lose situation for them.
Good luck. (check out the M3forum individual thread for the difference between individual, special order and priority 1.)