This seems a bit odd and may be part of the issue. Putting that aside...
You say you're athletic...join forums that pertain to your interests and get involved with local groups. I race bicycles (road and mountain) and I have met a ton of people that share the same interest...guys and girls. I can literally ride with a group every day of the week. It's easy to get to know people with similar interests and because it's a group activity people aren't as guarded.
Car type activities are typically a sausage fest and the girls that are around are usually just supporting their partner.
Oh, and don't try so hard...
2008 AW E88 Auto running on 100% E85
BMS CP, DCIs, & OCC--
E85 CP injection, and Fuel-It! Stage 3 LPFP--
M3 FSB, RCAs, & FCAs--
Whiteline RSFBs, and DBs--
ER SS brakelines--
Stoptech slotted rotors w/Ferodo pads--
Apex Arc 8s w/Nitto NT05's--
Wavetrac LSD & Ohlins R & T Waiting on install:
Nothing...give it a few