To the OP, I had a similar experience in the past two weeks here locally in Columbus, OH where the CA I spoke with initially seemed to be very up-front and helpful but in subsequent conversations I felt as though I was being hurried to order the car (M3). I also felt like a number of my questions were being shrugged off including incentives I felt I qualified for (USAA) where he said they were expired when I knew they were not, and also no explanation on why the money factor was marked up so high compared to the base rate. Once I began working with an Internet sales CA in Cincinnati I had a completely different experience and was able to get an amazing deal on an M3 lease with no pressure or complications and everything was explained in plain English and all my questions were answered satisfactorily. I understand wanting to work with a local CA to develop a relationship with that dealer, but I'm fine with building a relationship with one that's less than 2 hours away!
Anyway, I hope everything works out with your order, NHman!