If you are using the Y cable, you likely don't have the combox. Combox started with Sept 2010 production but BMW was selling model year '11 here in the US before that so you could have a MY '11 without the combox. My Sept '10 build car has the combox and I use the standard white Apple cable to connect my iPod, no Y cable needed.
You can do the upgrade so search for some of the vendors offering it...
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