^exactly. Radiation Joe didn't have the will to fight, so he let his ex wife walk on him like a 7-11 entrance rug.
OP, best of luck to you. No one else deserves your money except for you and who you delegate it to (except Uncle Sam), so good on you to fight this. As a side note, I'm not planning on marriage any time soon.
You will never be as complex as the strand of hair sitting on top of your head.